Unplugged Wedding and Social Media?

Best solution is to change your FB settings so all tagged photos need to be approved by you first.

Gymrat is right. That is one way to partially control it.

I have had several couples (that I know of) request this, and many more are asking me to announce unplugged ceremonies. I would put it on your website, on your social media pages; have your ushers tell people as they seat them, and make a blackboard sign for the entrance to the ceremony.

You would think it would be common courtesty, but apparently that's in short supply these days....

I fully support unplugged ceremonies for a lot of reasons, one being more picture options if things go badly withe the photographers pictures, fun candids, things like that.

I would never post things on line before the couple made their announcements and posted their own pictures.

What's acceptable and what is not changes from person to person I suppose.

It seems to be most effective if the officiant makes an announcement and there is a sign, however there may be those who feel they are the exception to the rule. I wish all officiants were like Celia. I specifically heard one bride remind her officiant to make an announcement not ten minutes before the wedding started because she really didn't want cameras and cell phones in her pictures. Sadly, the announcement was never made.

I would say in the last year or so, this has become a discussion I include every time I talk with a couple. For some couples, it's not a big deal, and I get that, hence the proliferation of hashtags and hashtag signs and cards at weddings.

I definitely think we'll get our minister to say it at the beginning of the ceremony - would you put it in the order of service too? Thanks for this guys!

I would say on your website, and if you have the officiant remind people it is unplugged they can also say something at the end of that like "the bride and groom respectfully as that you refrain from posting any pictures to social media until they themselves have had the chance to do so". Course it seems weird coming from the officiant of an unplugged ceremony, so maybe from the DJ?

I personally am looking forward to seeing pictures that others posted. It's the reason we created a hashtag. As for the ceremony, my stepdad who is also our officiant will be making an announcement before the BP comes out that we would like to keep the aisle clear of all cameras and phones so the photographer can get great shots. Also, we cannot afford a videographer but the one thing we really wanted a video of is our vows since we are writing them ourselves. So we have asked one of my many cousins to record them using one of our phones and she gladly accepted.

If you really want an unplugged ceremony I would put it in as many places as possible. On your website, social media, program, make a sign. The more visible it is the better chance that everyone will see it.

I had an extremely small ceremony, and everyone got the memo except for my MIL. No photos were posted on Facebook until our first dance and then it was almost everyone there.

We didn't post anything until the next day

Thinking something along these lines!

We ask that no photographs are taken during the ceremony. We have a wonderful photographer and videographer to capture the moments, so please just sit back and enjoy!

Additionally, please hold back from posting on social media, any photographs of the bride and groom, until they have done so themselves!

Definitely do unplugged, but the social media thing is a little tough Definitely use @GymRat's suggestion of changing your fb tagging settings! Also - do you know who the biggest social media offenders would be? If it's your close friends you can say something subtly before the wedding and have your bridal party help remind people

Naaaaah @Kay - I think now you're dictating too much with telling them not to post on social media. I get it, but that's why I said just have tagged photos approved first. You don't want to make them feel like they're in grade school with rules.

ETA: grammar

I'm definitely doing an unplugged ceremony. I figured then if guest take pictures before the ceremony starts and hey post them, it's fine because it doesn't include pictures of me or anything. By the time the ceremony is over, everyone will have already seen me so I don't care if they post pictures after. I know some people care about people posting but it just doesn't bother me. If it does bother you, you can just change your privacy settings on Facebook so you can't be tagged but it doesn't really fix the issues.

I think it's a little controlling. I would want to post photos of an event I was at while I was there, not a week later once "official" photos are posted. This isn't like an engagement or pregnancy announcement. Do you plan on having a wedding hashtag? If so, it's seems contradictory.

We asked our guests to upload all pictures on WedPics. Our guests did a really good job of uploading pics there. There were actually a few pictures that made it on Facebook but not a lot.