Unofficially Engaged

Not at all!

Feel free to talk with her about what you've chosen. If you truly want her input in selection of decor, floral, etc, then do that. Understand that feelings might get hurt if you don't "pick" what she suggested. It's not your fault that the universe blessed her with three boys and no girls.

You are officially engaged, no ring necessary! Congrats!! You can definitely start to take care of the things you'd like to. But I understand with societal pressure you don't want to make it public without having a ring. But yay! Have fun!

It's not wrong at all. Let her know you want to include her in the planning, but be clear about what you want to plan on your own.

Congrats on your engagement!! Date is set so it's official! / You plan is not wrong at all. I think it's very considerate that you're wanting to offer her some portion of a MOTB experience --- you are a sweetheart! I agree: having 3 boys, she probably has come to terms that she won't have one of those moments .

Congratulations!! That's not wrong at all!

My MIL has 4 boys and one of the ways I tried to include her in planning was to invite her to shop for my dress and my fittings. I think she appreciated being included. You don't have to share everything with your FMIL in regards to planning but maybe asking her to go along with you for dress shopping or some of your appointments with vendors would be nice.

Then you are engaged. If you are planning a wedding, you're engaged.

Congratulations!! I'm in the same boat with my FMIL. She only has 2 boys and for me I plan to include her as much as possible. Will invite her dress shopping and such since I want her to have that MOTB experience.

Congrats and happy planning.

Congrats! I am kinda in the same boat. FH ended up telling me that he was planning on proposing on my bday in just over a month, so we just went ahead and are shooting for October next year. I think it's sweet you want to include FMIL. I'm sure she will apreciate it and will understand your desire to plan some things on your own.

The definition of an engagement is "an agreement to get married" so congratulations, you are officially engaged. It would be nice to keep your MIL involved by getting her opinions on things, but this is your and your fh's wedding, you plan it how you want it.

We did the same thing and my mom said, "you're engaged, you just haven't announced it publicly yet!"

Congrats!!

I don't have a ring yet and we are 4 months out. Lol. Being Catholic we needed to arrange 6 months in advance so he "asked" but is still planning to do a "proposal" with the ring. He wants to surprise me, I'm hard to surprise and he's digging the challenge.

Congratz! It's really sweet that you want to include her, but it can get tricky if you disagree, and I know I'm a control freak. I went ahead and made all the major plans myself, and only discussed the things that I was willing to compromise on- I could care less about the format of the programs or escort cards etc. Another good way I got my family involved is asking them to chose between 2 details I liked equally- this ribbon or that one, one large candle or many tealights, this song for the parent dance or that one, etc. In the end I made all the major decisions and they were still involved in everything.