Unofficially engaged stress!

We started looking at venues before we got engaged, too! I did not book anything, though. You probably know your families better than anyone else but I think my mom would’ve been upset if we had booked anything before at least telling her. Everyone is different, though. I do think it’s a good idea to start looking thought because some vendors I’ve talked to are booked for my date in sept 2022.

When do you plan on telling them? I’m sure they’ll be hurt that they haven’t been included. It’s been my decisions but my mom and his grandma have loved sharing looking at venues and talking about details with me. It just depends on your relationship with them. Overall it is your wedding and your decision anyways, you don’t have to share this experience with them. But I could see them potentially being hurt / sad.

I think this really depends on your relationships. H had chosen my ring and it was being sized when we booked our venue. We got lucky and basically got the last weekend date they had available for the time of year we wanted. Once my ring came in we started telling people. No one was upset we had started plans already, but I also never planned to include anyone in the planning process outside of my husband.

You are not alone! I am also unofficially engaged and moving forward with planning some aspects of the wedding because of all the postponements.

I have a soft hold on the venue and my mom and my boyfriend know, but his family does not. I don't think anyone will be too upset.

I agree that it does feel so strange planning and not being able to tell people! What is stressing me out the most is that I can't tell anyone to save the date or check their availability!

Are you paying for the wedding yourselves? If so, I don't think it is anyone's business. You shouldn't feel like you should have to tell anyone. If you are going to ask for help or have someone else pay for it, then it might be in your best interested to ask after the engagement. But even then...does it really matter?