Unmarried couple, not living together, no inner envelope

If you're not closer to one of them than the other, I'd just ask one of them who they'd prefer you send it to.

In that situation I addressed it to both at the address they live at as Kate said.

We had a couple like this as well. We gave each of them their own invitation and did not give them a plus one.

I would just send it to the one you think would be more likely to hold onto it and RSVP on time lol. And put both their names on it.

They live at different addresses. I do have extra invitations - would it be wierd to send 2 invitations with both their names on each? Or would that be like inviting them twice?

Mail it to one with both names, but mail it to the more responsible persons address aka the one more likely to rsvp and not lose the invite

Maybe I'll do that Kit. I don't want them to think that one of them is only an extension of the other in our eyes. They would have both been invited with or without each other

I think it would be weird to send them separate invitations. They're a couple, so they're a social unit and should receive one invitation acknowledging that they are being invited together. If they're invited separately, it might feel like you're invalidating their relationship.

Maybe the one you've known longer or the one who you think would be more likely to send it back.

I had this same situation! I asked who we should send it to and we ended up sending it to the man. He has his own house and is in the WP so it made more sense.

I've also been a part of this too. I was invited to a really small wedding (mostly just family) so my date was going to be the one other friend coming. We both got invites, but we all understood who was bringing who beforehand. When in doubt just ask

I had a few invitations like this. For example, my best friend (MOH) is engaged but they don't live together. So I just did

Ms. MOH

Mr. MOH Fiancé

MOH's address

ETA- We also ran into this with FH's BM and his girlfriend. But since we are closer to BM, we sent it to his address with both their names.

I would mail it to which ever return address is put nt he upper corner.

Hmm, that's interesting. I've only been in the opposite situation - FH and I met in school and our classmates got married and sent him the invitation for both of us. I was annoyed by that - like they considered him the closer friend and I was the "date." He is much more responsible than I am though.

I guess I'll just ask.

Jenny, we are closer to her than we are to him, but we did it this way so that he wouldn't feel some kind of way. When they received their invitation, they appreciated that we acknowledged them as a couple even though they do not live together.

They have since moved in together. We're going to their housewarming in August.

@Kit, when you say you "acknowledged them as a couple", do you mean like by not giving them plus ones, or did you write both names on each invitation?

I mean, could I do like:

Jenny Smith

John Doe

Her address

John Doe

Jenny Smith

His Address

?

I want them to know we value them both as individuals, but obviously also that we acknowledge their relationship

I would just ask them which address it should be sent to. Before my FH and I lived together his friends and family would even send invites etc. to my house addressed to the both of us since he is notorious for loosing things! So if you know one is more responsible with invites and RSVPs then the other that may be the way to go.

Which ever address you find first

I've sent those to the one I'm closer with. If you're close with both, you could send separate ones. But I'm not sure that's necessary.

In my experience, when I was still dating my FH, our mutual friends would send the invite to me. I think there is an expectation that a women is more likely to send back the RSVP by the deadline lol. Probably not true at all.

I put them on the same envelope but I mailed it to the address of the person I knew better.

So Jane Smith is one of my friends and she's dating John Notsmith but they don't live together.

Jane Smith

John Notsmith

Jane's Address