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Just Said Yes March 2020

Unknown guests - how did you deal & what did u put on place cards?

D N, on November 12, 2020 at 3:11 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 8

So...what should I put on the place card for a whole table of unknown guests?? Wedding is 10 days away. Yikes!!?!! 😱


I know it sounds really silly but it's fact.


Here's the situation, my fiance's biological mother has invited a 10 extra guests. She rang my fiance's adopted mother last night to say, please book 1 extra table.

Because she's the biological mom she's invited but that's as far as it goes, we sorta don't talk...which means I can't ask for their names! I asked adopted mom to try get the names but biological mom said don't worry abt their names and was dismissive 😔. There's a whole different can of worms behind this family drama.

So... I have 1 extra table of unknown guests & Im 10 days out🥴, I've organised all the basics food, alcohol, seating, cake, etc.. but I don't know what to put on their place cards 🤔.

I actually got special place cards made. It's actually a keyring with each persons name on it, which I'm doubling up as wedding favours. Vendor confirmed they can do an additional 10 for me.

BUT I don't know any of the names of these 10 ppl. I was thinking of not making any for these 10 - but that would be wrong.

Im thinking I add a hand written "guest of mom" & have the keyrings blank or some random words like "dream big".

Thoughts? Any tips, ideas??
Thanks in advance for the help! Smiley love

8 Comments

Latest activity by Michele, on November 13, 2020 at 10:46 AM
  • Allie
    VIP November 2021
    Allie ·
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    Can you have his adoptive mom explain that you are trying to include them in your favors and need names for that reason? Otherwise they may feel left out and not understand why everyone else has personalized things and they don’t. If that’s not an option, I think your random phrases might be a good idea. Hopefully they won’t notice that everyone else’s is personalized, but that’s not on you! You tried!
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  • D
    Just Said Yes March 2020
    D N ·
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    Thanks! Ive asked adopted mum to try again. And as I was posting this I realised there's also a biological sister!

    I'm going to try asking her directly but she mat not know, but at least I tried!

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  • J
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    Judith ·
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    In space across the top, print guest of m's name, as you said, and who ever greets and seats as people flow in to the reception area should stop each person, write their name on the mater list, then write their name on their card. They will choose a seat at mom's table and put that place ard in the place ard holder in front of their seat. That way meal staff, and other guests and you can address them properly by name, not hey you. Nothing more you can do. Irritating, isn't it?


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  • Mrs. Spring
    Master April 2021
    Mrs. Spring ·
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    I've done that several time lol.
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  • Mrs. Spring
    Master April 2021
    Mrs. Spring ·
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    I agree with the previous poster about the random phrases.
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    Michele ·
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    Find out before the headcount is turned in by contacting those who are bringing a guest to find out names
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  • Meghan
    Master October 2019
    Meghan ·
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    Um... I would tell his bio mom that those 10 people can't come! That is ridiculous. You can't just invite your own guests to someone else's wedding.

    However, if you've decided to host them anyway, I would probably put "Guests of (bio moms name)" or the random phrases idea.

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    Super October 2022
    Michele ·
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    I agree with. It would be one thing if it was dates of various guests and you would contact them to find out names. But 10 random strangers she refuses to identify and may not even show? Hell no. That's money that can be saved or put toward something else. Your fiance needs to be firm with her.
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