Unity ceremony...... Mom passed years ago, who lights the candle on my side?

I usually have the couple light the two candles on the side, at the very beginning, then the unity candle right before the pronouncement.

I like Celia's idea

That is a great idea Celia! It was one of the random thoughts that occurred when I could not sleep. Most or all of the weddings I have gone to were Catholic and the Mothers lit the candles.

My FH's mother passed in 2000. My step mother is taking her role in lighting FH's mother's candle and my mother will light hers.

I was in the same situation. What we did was have the officiant light the candles before we walked and we had a corsage in front of mine to represent my mom, and a boutineer to represent his dad. we then light our candle from those ones. I think the flowers served the purpose to "represent" the families.

I like the flowers idea Kellie, I was thinking of a memorial table too and have a large bouquet there with pictures of our grandparents and my parents wedding picture or of my mom her dress.

There are several ways to approach this.

Once the prelude music begins, an usher or ushers can walk down and formally light any candles you have on the altar and unity candle.

As a coordinator I have done it; as an officiant I have done it.

There is no 'rule' that says the mothers light the unity candle.

Many Blessings.

Or your dad can walk you down the aisle, light the candle, and take his seat.

My dad passed away and we are honoring him through the unity candle. Our moms are lighting the candles & then FH & I are lighting the unity candle that has my dad's picture on the vase. Your dad could light your candle.

We did the memorial table at the reception. i had someone move the corsage and boutineer to the venue after we left the church. the

What your thought of the brides mom lighting both since mine is deceased. . but I have a memory candle for my dad but the candles?

View Quoted Comment That's my issue my soon to be husband mom.is not deceased but not in the states . His son would be his best man thinking about having him light one and my mom do the other