We have a blended family. When we get married, we'll have 6 kids all together-not that we don't already think that they're not all our children. We wanted to have unity candles or sand with our ceremony to symbolize our coming together and to have something at the house to remind us of our special day. Besides the marriage lol I'm not sure how to go about it for the ceremony though. Do we really want 6 kids to come up front to take turns pouring sand? That could get messy. Or how would that work with candles? Would they just light their own and we (me and hubby) just light the big one? The only idea I've had so far was to maybe have the kids fill in their part of the sand before the ceremony and me and FH finish filling it. I kind of feel like that's still not including them though. Thoughts? What would you do?
We did a sand ceremony with a picture of all of us and we had it personalized to say “together we make a family” with the wedding date. Granted I only have two step kids but I still love the sentiment and we have the sand filled frame displayed in our home. I would definitely bring all the kids up. Maybe one at a time. Here’s the frame we used. Got it on Etsy. You can replace the photo with a wedding photo afterwards.
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We love it! The only bad thing was that the funnel got clogged and sand ended up all over our faces during the ceremony. It was funny hearing my 7 year old step daughter yell “it’s covering our faces!” When we switched the photo out it was fixed. Just pour very slowly.
My dad and step-mom did a sand ceremony that involved me and my 2 step siblings. We dodnitnin order by age and maybe whoever the "step" parent is can help as a way of showing unity. My parents still have it as a decoration in their living room.