Unity Candle...with Step-Parents...

I think that if your FH wants them both to light the candle - they should. :-)

It's been 28 years - there shouldn't be any problems between the two women.

FH's mom lives in another state. His stepmom lives here. I haven't seen them in the same place together but I don't think they have any issues.

I'm just wondering if it will be look weird?

Should we skip the whole unity candle thing..I don't know!

I don't think it would look weird. Is your mom doing it for you? Or who would be on your side? Chances are - most people are going to know his stepmom if she lives nearby and understand why she's up there alongside his mother.

Yea my mom would be doing it for me.

Everyone on his side knows the situation.

Before my stepdad passed away, my plan was always to have both he and my dad walk me down the aisle, one on each arm.

I don't think it's weird.

Thank you

I don't think it's weird. Like Jenn, I'm having both my dad and stepdad walk me down the aisle. I think you have to do what's right for you, and it seems like they're both important to your FH. It's your day, do it how you want!

It might be easier to do the unity sand celebration. Your parents, his parents & stepparents can all pour a bit of sand into the large container and then the two of you can pour in your sand.