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Unity Candle Alternative??

Kristina , on November 18, 2017 at 4:32 PM Posted in Planning 0 21
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Our venue wont allow open flames, so having a unity candle at our ceremony isn't an option. My fiancé and I aren't super religious, so we probably won't do communion or "God's Knot" either. Are any alternatives out there? Thanks!

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Latest activity by Celia Milton, on November 18, 2017 at 9:05 PM
  • Chelsey
    Devoted July 2019
    Chelsey ·
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    The most common response i heard was unless there is a significant meaning behind an idea you two already had in mind or religious ceremony, than don't try to fit something in at that point. Just the ceremony alone is sacred enough Smiley smile

    Now on another note, I've heard of a cute idea. It's putting a bottle of wine into a keepsake box and two letters you wrote to each other, and seal away the box for your first anniversary.

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  • Erin
    Devoted December 2017
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    We're doing a wine ceremony!!

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  • Rosered
    Devoted January 2019
    Rosered ·
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    Did you ask specifically about having a unity candle ceremony? Some venues won't allow unattended open flames but will allow a unity candle ceremony. If it i something you want it is worth asking directly.

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  • HowCo Industries
    VIP September 2018
    HowCo Industries ·
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    I'm torn, because while I'm not doing any of that you seem to want to. Isn't there a sand thing that people do?

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  • muriel
    Champion June 2018
    muriel ·
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    Https://www.theknot.com/content/unique-unity-ceremony-ideas

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  • BlueHenBride
    Master March 2017
    BlueHenBride ·
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    We did a fisherman's knot.

    It's okay to skip any kind of unity ceremony if you don't find one that is meaningful to you and your FS. It's optional and really only makes sense if it's meaningful to the two of you.

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  • Laura
    Dedicated July 2018
    Laura ·
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    Love lock ceremony. Look it up, it's pretty cool!

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  • Happy Hedgie
    VIP September 2018
    Happy Hedgie ·
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    I'm planning on doing a sand ceremony instead. That might work for you. That or like a pp mentioned write love letters to each other to be read on your first anniversary. If you wanted you could even write new letters on your anniversary to be read the following year, etc.

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  • mrsmack
    VIP April 2017
    mrsmack ·
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    We did a handfasting and I loved it. We also considered a sand ceremony, and a tree planting ceremony because we got married on Arbor Day.


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  • Bulbasaur
    Devoted September 2020
    Bulbasaur ·
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    Hand fasting, sand, or do the unity candle at your reception just before the first dance.

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  • TheeOne2Love
    VIP December 2017
    TheeOne2Love ·
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    We are doing unity sand.

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    Just Said Yes October 2018
    April ·
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    Unity sand?

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  • Samantha
    Expert March 2018
    Samantha ·
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    We are getting married. That is our unity ceremony

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  • stephanie
    Super October 2017
    stephanie ·
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    We did a wine box ceremony. We will either drink the wine and read our letters if we are on hard times and thinking about splitting up, or read, drink, and replace every 5 years. I don't like the ones that "end" after a year or 5 or 10, because the goal is to do this for life, so 5 years is a relatively minor accomplishment by that standard.

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  • Nancy Taussig
    Nancy Taussig ·
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    Since most of my weddings are on the beach, we frequently do the unity sand. But, I've also done handfastings, the unity cross, unity candle, watering a potted tree or orchid or flat of wildflower seeds, the hand ceremony, love locks, blessing shell or stone toss (into the Gulf), and recently did my first bottle of wine & love letters in a box.

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  • Beachy
    VIP November 2017
    Beachy ·
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    We did a sand ceremony. We had a beach wedding so it totally fit.


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  • QueSeraSera
    VIP December 2017
    QueSeraSera ·
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    We're not doing anything. Our officiant is going to talk, and then we'll say our vows, exchange rings, and walk out Smiley smile

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    Savvy September 2017
    Erika ·
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    Personally I skipped it. I felt they didn't fit into my ceremony since I'm not religious and it wasn't me or my husband! We did do a hand holding ceremony that I wrote. We held hands as it was read. It was more meaningful.

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  • MrsMcK
    VIP September 2017
    MrsMcK ·
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    We did a sand ceremony, but only because we met at the beach. You don't need to have a "unity ceremony" because the wedding ceremony is already about unity.

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  • Bailey
    Devoted January 2018
    Bailey ·
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    We are doing a sand ceremony. I wouldn't mind skipping it all together but i have a son from a previous marriage and my fiance and I have a daughter, so we are doing a family ceremony in a frame.

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