Unique wedding touches

We are doing a lot of unique and untraditional things. We are not having a flower girl or a ringbearer. We will be walking down the aisle to untraditional music. I am not wearing white. We will be having a sage smudging during our ceremony. We are not doing any staged/posed photos. We will be having a tarot card reader and caricature artist at our cocktail hour. We are providing morning after “hangover” IVs in hotel rooms, then treating our guests to a drag brunch.

View Quoted Comment Those are cool ideas! I’m not wearing white either I have a black dress. Also I’m walking down the aisle to kiss the girl from little mermaid 😅 (I’m a Disney nerd lol) we aren’t having a flower girl either both of my sons will be in the wedding party but neither one will have the rings mainly because ones going to be 2 and I can’t trust the other one to hold on to them long enough without losing them 😂😂 and our song after when we both walk down the aisle together isn’t going to be traditional either we just haven’t picked one out yet

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Ooo whats a sage smudge? I've been wanting to do something different instead of a sand ceremony or knot tying. Im an artist of sorts, so we considered a paint pour.

Taking time for yourselves is the best thing you can do. We did it and it was so great to have that little bit of alone time because the day is such a whirlwind.


One thing we did that we hadn't seen in other weddings was a rings warming ceremony. I saw someone on WW post about it and loved the idea. During your ceremony your wedding rings are passed around for the guests to give their wishes, blessings, hopes, etc for your life together.

We are not including any family in the wedding parties, we will be staying together the night before the wedding and doing breakfast together that morning. We will be doing a first look with out families involved. Opted out of flower girl and ring bearer. Opted out of flowers. Non-traditional music at the ceremony, no farewell brunch the next morning. And the least traditional is we will have been legally married long before we have the wedding.

I am only doing hair and makeup for myself. No getting up stupid early to get all the bridesmaids ready. We are taking 10 minutes after the ceremony to have a glass of wine by ourselves in the bridal suite. We are not having a wedding cake- just a gluten free cutting tiramisu and a dessert table for everyone else. Our cake topper is a Mr. and Mrs. Potato head.

View Quoted Comment I love the mr. and Mrs potato head idea 😂 we aren’t doing a cake but instead doing cupcakes it’s just easier for everyone I think so I definitely get the no cake cutting thing! I’m not getting up early either I’m 120% not a morning person 😅 my SIL does make up so I asked her if she would do the girls make up if they asked (there’s only 2 other people besides myself and SIL in the wedding party) but I think we are all in agreement that we are just doing our own make up…I am going to have someone do our hair (that is if they want it done if not that’s fine too!) I’m also doing a first look with my two boys and one with my dad and step dad (I’m my dads only kid and then my step-dad doesn’t have any girls so I want to include him) I’m also doing a father daughter dance with both of them!

View Quoted Comment I debated whether or not I wanted family there 😅 mine can get stressful at times especially since they know I’m getting married. I also cut off my moms whole side of them family (except my mom I love her to death) so it’s mainly just my fiancé’s family who are going to be there

View Quoted Comment We just did it because we have too many siblings. I have 4 brothers and 4 sisters and he has 2 sisters and a brother. it just left no room for friends. we figured our family would be involved no matter what in some way and we wanted to honor our relationships with our best friends

View Quoted Comment It’s an Indigenous ritual where sacred sage is burned and the couple is bathed in the smoke (my fiancé is Native American)

We're incorporating Chinese traditions into the ceremony since that's where my fiancé was born and raised. We're going to have a separate ceremony in China for our 1 year anniversary, but I still want to honor my new family that way since the culture is a big part of our relationship and it is the legal marriage after all! So there will be a shortened tea drinking mid-ceremony in the US and we'll have some paper cutting "double happiness" at the reception. And our main theme is chinoisere, which is not very "Chinese wedding" but it is beautiful! And my wedding dress is a bit of a mix between west and east.

We are going completely untraditional. No bridesmaids, no cut the cake moments. We will do that privately. I am also not throwing a bouquet. Rather in addition to providing bouquets and special seating for my girlfriends, I have bought additional bouquets for my single girlfriend and will hand them to it ceremoniously. Our recessional song will be something we can dance to down the aisle and all guest will be invited to dance their way to the dance floor prior to cocktail hour. Our wedding is one big dance party! Plus I have a lot of Nigerian traditions that I am throwing in that are counter to what one would expect at a US. wedding.

We are doing this exact thing.

View Quoted Comment Would love to know more about your wedding details. I am always inspired by Brides who go the less traditional route. In my mind guest at least mine, really want to come to eat, drink, and dance. So that’s where we put our money. I hate bridal processionals that are excessively long, I am there to see the bride. Throwing the bouquet gets violent at times which is why I am just gifting single girlfriends one. I doubt anyone cares about watching us cut a cake as well which is why we are doing that privately. Our goal is to have a party where guests can just have fun and not be bored by ritualistic wedding traditions. Guest just want to have fun.

View Quoted Comment Well, we're getting married at a girl scout camp. I'm wearing a coffee/gold gown with a bridal cape. My two sons (they will be 16 and 14) and his son (will be 16) and adult daughter are our only bridal party. We are having a friend officiate (which in PA means we're doing a self-uniting marriage) and are doing a handfasting. Nobody is walking me down the aisle. We are bother entering from separate doors on both sides of a big fireplace and meeting in the middle. My ring is moss agate (and I LOVE it). We are doing a low key pulled pork, pulled chicken and baked potato bar. We're just starting to seriously plan, so I am sure there will be more non-traditional stuff, because it's just not our style.

We're also having a big campfire after the rehearsal on Friday night.

View Quoted Comment No I just love that idea of you guys walking into separate entrances I might have to find a way to steal that idea if that’s okay! I’m walking down home runway built over the pool so it looks like I am walking on water. Might be kind of cool to watch towards now on the same runway and we walked on the aisle together that might be very cool.

View Quoted Comment Steal away. We are doing things exactly how WE want. We've both been married before. This is OUR dream wedding.

View Quoted Comment Omgawd. Ours too. We are a bit older and we figured tradition didn’t work the first two times for me and once for him so we are planning according to our taste!

View Quoted Comment Right? I'll be 43 and he will be 47 by the time we get married.