Unique ways to get kids involved?

I think maybe just bringing them along in shopping for any wedding related stuff or having them pick kinds of flowers (maybe from a pre-selected list).

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Thank you, Hannah! They are giving me away (the littler one can't wait to tell FH "here, you can have her" in front of everyone LOL), so I'm thinking they can choose their own dresses and I'll take them for alterations so they can feel "doted on", let them choose their own shoes and let them pick their hairstyles. I'm wondering, which goes hand in hand with your suggestion, if I should let them make their own bouquets to carry when they walk me down the aisle?

I ask them to look at some of my inspiration pics and give their opinions, too.

My FH’s daughter is 7 and I call her my “point of contact” for my wedding coordinators. Any vendor that e-mail me she reads first and “tells me” what to respond. His other two kids (two boys, 3 and 6) have to put the final seal of approval on everything. I made them their own little “wedding planning” books with checklists of things like ‘cake’ and ‘flowers’, and every design they ok and put a check mark beside. The kids like to take pictures of every step (shoes, the venue, etc) and glue them in this book. Those three really think they’ve planned our entire wedding all on their own! We also take them to every appt. with vendors, and they got to (within reason) choose their own outfits and pick certain aspects of the wedding, like donut flavors for our guests and what tasted yummy to be catered for dinner.

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That is so awesome!! Thank you for sharing, Destiny!

I might work on a little planning book for each of them, too thank you so much for the advice!

View Quoted Comment "Here, you can have her" 😂😂😂 omg, so cute. The bouquet thing sounds like a cute idea! That way they feel more like it's really theirs.

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Yes, they're both little spit-fires...rotten to the core and cute enough (or so they think) to get away with it I wouldn't have them any other way, though!

Thank you

I asked my FSS(10) to use his artistic abilities and take one of our family photos and draw / etch it out for display. I also asked for his favorite music to have some of his favorites included in our music selection. And I also asked how he wanted to help celebrate our big day (he's still getting back to me on that ) But it's all good. He's excited and that's honestly all that matters to me.

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That is wonderful, Margaret! I'll ask my minions to pick a couple favorite songs to include, too

Choose poses for bride and flowergirls on instagram together and recreate them! Those pictures could be hang on their bedroom wall. Choose the frames together too.


In my culture, the flower girls are on charge of fixing the brides long train and veil position. So they follow the bride all the time.

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Thank you, Belle!

If you have any decisions you're truly ambivalent about and you get it narrowed down to a couple choices, you can let them pick between something like chocolate or vanilla cake or lilies or roses for your bouquet. You can also ask them to help with any DIY projects you have! I don't know if you have anything, but arranging their own bouquet should be doable (and you could always redo it). I'd definitely let them go with you to select your wedding dress and make a day of selecting their attire!

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I'm one of those unfortunate souls who hates shopping, so my dress was already ordered online, but we've already decided to let them come with us for the cake tasting in August (and made sure it's ok with the bakery ) I feel they would be really excited to be trusted with doing something themselves, so I may have them each take on a few of the centerpieces and then make their own bouquets I really appreciate the feedback and suggestions!! Thank you very much!

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Cake tasting is a great idea! That was one of our favorite parts, but it's very kid friendly!