So we sent out invitations and almost everyone has RSVP yes but our venue is only allowing so many people still. How do you decide who to send an uninvited message too?! And what do you even put in the uninvited message?
Is there a limit because of COVID restrictions? If that's the case then put something like "Due to our venues COVID restrictions they have a limited capacity and we need to downsize. Our wedding will now just be immediately family and close friends." Probably word it a little better than that but you get the point.
If it isn't COVID I'm a little confused how you have more invited than the capacity? You're not suppose to invite more than what the venue holds.
I'm assuming there's capacity restrictions because of COVID, and if that's the case and you knew of this beforehand, then invites should have only been sent to the amount you knew your venue could hold. But what's done is done, and I'd suggest wording it how Sarah did.
"While we wish we could have all of our loved ones attend, due to COVID restrictions we will have to downsize our wedding to only include immediate family and close friends. We apologize for the inconvenience and change of plans, and hope we get the chance to celebrate with you in the future!"
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Agree with this. The only way to uninvite anyone, as all the etiquette books/articles stated at the beginning of the pandemic, is to send cancellation notices to everyone and create a new event with an all new date and guest list.
Did you over invite with the hopes of declines and lowered COVID restrictions? That’s twice the chances of being over capacity……..there’s no nice way to uninvite someone especially if they have already made travel and lodging plans. Never invite more than what the venue can handle at that time.
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Looking at the calendar, for a wedding taking place the first weekend in October, the invites should not be sent until the first week of August at the earliest. So you can revise the guest list in a weekend without having to uninvite anyone. Provided they have not been sent yet. But the new standard on WW is people suggesting they be sent at 10 weeks at the latest which is too early.
If save the dates have already been sent to everyone 6 months ago, that throws a wrench in too because you can’t revoke those without a cancellation notice for all guests.
I feel like you can’t do this unless you cut it down to just immediate family. I think people will understand if you eliminate everyone but immediate family, otherwise they will know they aren’t as important to you as maybe someone else
She said they already sent them and they're already getting RSVPs back, so it's definitely too late for that stuff. They're stuck with either finding a new venue to fit everyone or somehow uninviting people I guess (though I can't imagine doing that).
You should never ever invite more guests than you are allowed to have. Yes you do get people who won't come but you can't just expect 10 people to decline. You either should find a new venue that fits that many people or make the dreaded call and tell people they are no longer invited because of restrictions. Maybe you can cut plus ones as well.