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BCG
Beginner October 2021

“Uninviting” people to the wedding?

BCG, on February 4, 2020 at 11:31 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 5
So I have an... odd situation. Several months ago, when I thought our wedding was going to be bigger than it is going to be, I sent out that WeddingWire link to have a few of our guests fill in their addresses so when it came time to send out invitations I’d be sure to have everyone’s. Well, over the past few months plans have changed from a local wedding to a very intimate destination wedding. As intimate as we can get. We’re only planning on have 20 guests (I would have preferred less but fiancé has a lot of family members he’s very close with and my step-family is very large). My mom has one of those guests that received a link to fill out her address in town right now. She’s no longer being invited, though I had yet to really explain that to anyone yet— until we have put a down payment on the venue. My mom said that her friend told her that “my family is very excited to attend the wedding” and my mom didn’t know what to do so she just kind of said “oh yeah it’s going to be fun!”.
Now neither of us know what to do and I’m panicking! I seriously wish I didn’t love to plan ahead so much because I wouldn’t have made this stupid mistake!

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Latest activity by BCG, on February 20, 2020 at 5:00 PM
  • Caytlyn
    Legend November 2019
    Caytlyn ·
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    I wouldn't go out of my way to tell her she's not invited, but when she brings it up to either of you again, I would say, "we switched gears to an intimate destination wedding with just our closest family, but we'd love to celebrate with you next time you're in town!"

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  • A
    Super August 2020
    Alex ·
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    Your only option now is to be blunt. Tell everyone your wedding plans have changed and your are now "eloping." I know you aren't technically eloping, but that will help people understand they are not invited.

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  • Jennifer
    VIP August 2021
    Jennifer ·
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    This is a great way to put it!

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  • BCG
    Beginner October 2021
    BCG ·
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    Thank you! This is a great way to phrase it! My fiancé is from NY and we have a lot of out of town family members so we’ll be hosting lots of get togethers with people who couldn’t come!
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  • BCG
    Beginner October 2021
    BCG ·
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    It is considered an elopement at the venue we’re having it at so I could technically say this! Thank you!
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