Uninviting bridesmaid from bachelorette party

If this is a good friend and this isn't typical behavior for her I d chalk it up to her having a tough time right now. I wouldn't uninvited her hopefully being around good friends is exactly what she needs to cheer up. Good luck.

Ask yourself this question. How would I feel if someone disinvited me to a party? Now ask yourself how you would feel if one of your supposedly best friends disinvited you to a party.

I am sure you would feel many things. Probably crappy, angry , resentful, sad etc......

If this woman is such a good friend to the bride, that she was asked to be a bridesmaid. Then they are good enough friends that she can be gently spoken to if she causes any problems while on the trip. Just because she expressed doubts beforehand, doesn't mean she is going to be difficult at the party.

Uninviting a bridesmaid from a bachelorette party would probably be a friendship-ending move. I would ask your friend if she's prepared for that outcome before she makes a decision.

If she doesn't actually care about this person, then sure, it won't matter. But if she does care about her (and, wow, I would hope she does if she asked her to be a bridesmaid!), then she should use empathy to prioritize the friendship over any potential effects on a party.

That would about end the friendship for me. So, I guess it depends on whether this person's friendship is important to the bride or not. It would also depend on how kind the bride is to a friend that is going through a tough time. Sometimes things like breakups happen, and I would hate to think that it's grounds for ending friendships over.

I agree that this could be a friendship ending move.

Some of her comments may be related to her recent breakup and feeling bad/negative as a whole. Some may be that she's not a "nature" person .... on the other hand, maybe being with all of you ladies, enjoying yourselves, and enjoying the great outdoors, may just be what she needs right now: down time to reconnect and relax.

You could always have a girls night dinner or drink just you and she, and ask how she is doing? Does she feel up to being a bridesmaid in light of her recent breakup? Also, mention you recognize your bridesmaid party is not a typical venue (although I personally would LOVE it!!), but you're looking forward to some quiet time to enjoy the great outdoors and time with each of you away form the hustle and bustle of "City Life!!" .... if you do offer that up, be prepared for her to give you an earful of all the reasons you shouldn't go there. Just listen! Deep breath! Do not be offended - you did just ask her!! Then, acknowledge her feelings "I get it, it's not what YOU would do. But, for you - it's simply perfect in your eyes. You're looking forward to the away time and being able to enjoy the cabin, stars, sounds (crickets & owls)" ... whatever the reason is you are looking forward to this ... you might be surprised by her response. This allows you to address the concern w/out coming right out and saying you're over her complaining and "Debbie Downer" comments. Good luck