So interesting situation here and definitely not what I expected to happen...
Backstory:
I had a BM that was all on board with being a BM (SHE WAS THERE WHEN WE GOT ENGAGED AND EVERYTHING). We were close friends and everything was smooth. She had a bunch of family issues happen and a sick child so she started getting flaky on wedding stuff. I completely understood (I use to be a single moth before I net my FH so I know how rough it can be and she has twins). I asked if she needed anything just let me know. January my sister committed suicide a few days later my FH got a bunch of people together to just hangout with me and try and help get me out of the funk of losing my sister. BM came with her new boyfriend, this was the first time we had really gotten to talk and despite the crappy circumstances we talked wedding and she explained how excited she was and what not. Fast forward a month and I bring up dress shopping to her (we were 6 months out at this time) she pretty much said she couldn't and wouldn't get back to me on when she could. I brushed it off... 6 months to go there was still time. I kept talking to her (or trying I should say) to make sure she was doing well, to get our kids together and just to be a friend... she ignored me for 2 months. By this point I put 2 and 2 together that it was probably a financial thing and I had offered all the help I could at this point so I messaged her and let her know that i understand if she can't swing it because of costs and family but I just wanted to know so I could plan accordingly. Still didn't hear back from her. I messaged her a few more times and nothing.
Fast forward: to a few weeks ago and I called her out saying I felt hurt she couldn't even respond back to me and that I had given her spot in the wedding to my sister. 2 days later she messaged me saying she was a bad friend and theres no excuse and she was embarrassed where she was in life. We had a very deep talk and I told her I hope she never feels that way again with me I will always be there for her despite what shes going through. Now mind you we were paying for lodging for our wedding party to come to the wedding because its a DW so we paid for a cabin for a week for everyone in the wedding party. I made it very clear she was no longer in the wedding party.
Now onto yesterday: I messaged her and asked if she would like an invite to the bridal shower and bachelorette weekend even though shes not in the party anymore because we are all still friends and we have people who aren't going to be in the party that are coming to both. She said she would let me know. I was like okay cool. Then she asked me about her invite and that she had a plus one and would like one of the king bedrooms...
I don't really know how to explain to her (because I was pretty clear about it already) that we don't have a room for her. I wasn't even expecting her to come to the wedding (even though shes still invited) because she said she couldn't afford being a BM (where all she had to do was drive to the venue and pay for a dress). I feel weird talking about it now because we already discussed everything so i'm not even sure on the proper etiquette. I know the headline says uninviting a guest and I realize I'm not really trying to do that but wasn't sure what to label it as... Her spot in the cabin has already been given to my sister.
