Uninviting a guest??? Need help here

Once the invites go out, you can't politely uninvite anyone without cancelling the entire event. Cross your fingers that she declines is the only thing to do at this point.

When is the bachelorette party? She may not be comfortable hanging out because of the pandemic.

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The bach party is July 30th, when I asked her if it was due cover she said no she just can't commit to it.

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Ugh!!! I hate that!!!

I would just leave it be if she comes cool if she doesn’t whatever

Allowing someone to come to your wedding (since you have already sent the invitations) should not be contingent on bachelorette party attendance. They are two completely separate events.

View Quoted Comment Ugh. I’m sorry. I would just hope she doesn’t make it. You will be so busy with everything going on you really won’t see her long.

Its your wedding. As long as you understand uninviting her means a friendship ending move forever than just go for it. You should only have people that you want to be at your wedding be there. Send her a text if you have to. Who cares about formality at that point. Just tell her you’re downsizing due to Covid and leave it at that n don’t contact her ever again. Or tell her the truth. Who cares? She may be dreading having to go to your wedding anyhow.

I would just invite her and she’ll probably decline. And then at least you did your part.

Don’t uninvite her. It seems like she doesn’t want to be there anyway. Just let her decline.

Uninviting someone can only be done in VERY few circumstances and even then it is a very slippery slope to travel down.

To be honest, I don't think your friend is necessarily deserving of being uninvited (she hasn't done anything malicious or sinister that would warrant it) and it doesn't seem like she will come anyway. If she does, she'll just end up proving you wrong.

I think this just comes down to frustrations of having different effort levels (and expectations) with other people, I feel you sister!

View Quoted Comment It’s not even that’s, it is the fact that she has ghosted me.. I think that was just the last straw

View Quoted Comment Thank you so much! And I appreciate you breaking it down like this.. 💜

Hi Karisa,

You stated she already has the invite. Did she RSVP saying she is coming? You maybe stressing un-necessarily. However, there is nothing like looking into the crowd on your wedding day, and seeing someone you don't care for, eating your food and having a good time.

Here's what I'd do:

Hope she's late sending the RSVP so that you have to follow up - leave a voice message saying that if you don't hear back from her by X, you'll put her down as a "no." Sounds like you'd get voice mail on calling her anyway.

Even if she responds with a yes, I wouldn't be surprised if she didn't show up. Don't include her in your headcount.