Uninvited guests

Yes! I have been asked if a person will be invited. I like to say we haven't done the list yet. In your case, I would say the host wanted to keep it small or that you want to keep your wedding intimate.

I've even been asking by someone if they are going to be my maid of honor - they weren't even asked to be a bridesmaid. She keeps telling everyone she is. I guess she will find out when she doesn't get a wedding invitation.

A couple years ago I was attending a friend of mine's (K) 's wedding. I declined my +1 and only RSVPd for myself because our guy friend T was also invited to the wedding and we'd just agreed to be each other's dates. T invited me to go to the RD with him, even though I wasn't invited....I was like ARE YOU SURE? LOL --- T never bothered to tell me he was actually in the wedding party as an usher lol. I was so mortified at first -- but honestly it probably really didn't matter as they had a fajita buffet by the pool of the "wedding hotel". But I felt so awful!

I actually was (to my surprise) seated at the head table during the reception as well ! (Which was good - the only people I knew at the 500+ person wedding were in the wedding party or were T"s parents.

So my answer to both of these is yes..which is annoying because I haven’t even sent out save the dates. I have just been telling people just that. We have not sent out anything but will be inviting our closest friends & family. As for the other person who I used to be close w/ I have no idea honestly. I would assume they noticed we drifted apart, if not my answer will be similar to the first. Because in all reality it would be nice to invite a lot ppl they may get left out but we simply can’t accommodate everyone. I refuse to feel bad about it.

Yes. My mom told me the other day that one if her friends commented that she plans to come to my wedding. She is not on our guest list so I'll deal with that once we get closer to sending out the STDs.

I always like to ask people like this, "Why do you ask?" It's puts the issue back on them to explain why they think they deserve an invitation.

It boggles my mind that people would have the audacity to ask, but yes, unfortunately people do. I have had people ask if we set our wedding date and when the date is. Then immediately they said something along the lines of "I'll be sure to keep it open!". Well, I am prepared for a lot of questions of "did my invitation get lost?" when the time comes.