Uninvited guests

I agree that it’s extremely rude to show up without RSVPing. I guess there is always a chance that someone mailed their response and it didn’t arrive but that is unlikely. I would say if you want to be sure that doesn’t happen then maybe you could text everyone that doesn’t respond by your required date and tell them you’re giving your final count and you will not be able to accommodate them so they know in advance not to come. This gives them a chance to tell you otherwise.

Yup, totally rude. I'm hoping my venue will handle that if I should encounter it. However, it's very clear we won't accommodate any uninvited or non RSVP guests on our site and I intend to do a quick follow up with anyone who doesn't respond. I just need to ask the venue if the DOC will handle this.

I'm likely going to use our favors as seat assignment props to show even further that there are no extra seats/accommodations.

Definitely rude people really need to RSVP to wedding they cost to much just to change your mind last minute and decide to come. If your in touch with the people your inviting just message for a last head count.

It’s very rude to not RSVP and expect to have a seat. I just had this conversation with my FH and he agreed that we will not accommodate anyone that didn’t RSVP...no exceptions. We’ll send a courtesy out to the responses that we don’t receive before the deadline; but if we don’t receive anything we will take that as a no, you’re not attending. Our venue is per plate as well and all payments are due 11 days before the wedding; additional money is not something we are trying to worry about the day of.

It is extremely rude to show up uninvited or to change your RSVP from no to yes -_- it's just awful. I've had friends where that happened and they just were gracious enough to accommodate. It sort of happened to me but it was kind of hard for me to say no and I had some room so it worked out. I had two unexpected guests that were children. I had invited the parents WITH kids buttttt the parents decided to not bring the kids on their RSVPs ... Then they show up with the kids. And so when they came and they're like "uh.. hope you don't mind... But I brought Hilary" ... Hilary is like a four year old little girl, what am I supposed to do at that point ya know? So I just was like it's all good, welcome. They luckily sat at a table with an extra open spot anyway.

This is very rude, i am going through the same thing. When i sent out my invitations i put reserved seats and some guests scratched out the reserved number and added extra guests! lol i let some slide, but people think it’s their wedding. I am having my wedding planner escort guests out who didn’t rsvp

I think it is beyond rude to show up uninvited and you should not have to accommodate them at all. We had such a struggle tracking down our last 5 missing RSVPs. We contacted them multiple times and the last message we sent was that unfortunately you will be marked as a no. One of them seems to have no idea how much effort and money weddings take to plan as in her area of the country, big weddings aren’t something that happens. most of the ones in their area are more like backyard bbq, which is fine but not what our wedding is and we had to explain that multiple times before telling her the time was up.

Any and all are welcome to attend the Ceremony. However, if they did not RSVP, then they will not be on the seating chart. This means that they will not be able to eat.

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We didn't have any extra guests, but we invited all kids/parents/significant others/plus ones so there wasn't anyone extra to bring. We did have 1 no show, but that's it. We added 5 extra plates in to our catering budget though just in case. It's for sure rude to show up with RSVPing but I didn't want to have to make a seen if someone did.

I am pretty sure our coordinator will just turn them away if this were to happen. With a seating chart you'd be able to tell easily. I am not paying extra for food on a whim. I agree with Miss above.

I possibly don't know how people can think it's okay to just show up at someone's wedding unannounced/no RSVP. That's one of the rudest thing one can do. Unfortunately, I've heard so many horror stories regarding this and people have security measures now for to not accommodate those not invited. my plate is approx. $750 and will definitely kick anyone and everyone out who is not invited.