Uninvited Guest

I just can't imagine being that bold or that rude. I would politely let them know that you have already reached you max on guests but thank them for their support and well wishes.

Oh man. This happened to me before we had even sent out save the dates, but I actually knew the person and I had been close to them a while back. She was a friend of my mother's so she requested I invite her.

In your case, however, for the sake of all things good and fair and just and reasonable in the world, do not give in! That was rude and presumptuous of them, and they have no right to be asking such a thing.

If you need an excuse (I'll be using this one a lot), just tell them it's an intimate wedding. What a friend of mine did (I'm not necessarily recommending this, I'm just saying it's an option) was live-stream the ceremony for those who weren't there in person.

I agree with PP no one should ask if they are invited, venue and limitations should be enough as to an excuse.

I would say be honest with them and tell them unfortunately you will be unable to send them an invitation. It's unfortunate when these types of messages are received because it's hard to tell someone who may have been expecting an invite, that they will not be getting one. If it's due to venue capacity or additional costs, let them know that. I'd say honesty is the best policy in these situations.

This just happened to me last week after sending our save the dates!

It was a very long message of how I was being unfair. This family member I have not talked to in over 3 years due to a fall out. I just read it and left it that way, not be mean but it would make more drama than necessary in my opinion. Plus once I considered inviting them the cons were way more than the pro's.

Just tell them you've only invited close family and friends and that's it. Budget only allows for so many guests!

I would either ignore the message (which seems fine if you never talk to them anyway) or send something like "Hey! I'm so sorry, but we weren't able to afford to invite everyone we wanted. Invites already went out. I'm sorry again!" or something. It's an awkward situation regardless.

I think it should should be handled delicately. When saying no, just let them know you worked a budget and not everyone could be invited. It's nothing against them (whether it is or not), but say you wanted a more intimate/private wedding. We couldn't invite everyone either and as the RSVP's begin to come in, sometimes we can fill the 'slot' when someone cannot make it.

It looks like you got a lot of great advise! I will definitely be taking notes if I have a situation like this. Good Luck

We got so many of these during our wedding planning and our answer was always the same. "Sorry, we want a more intimate ceremony and chose or venue to match our vision. We are only inviting family to our big day but would love to celebrate with you another time."

Sure some people got their feelings hurt but you can't please everyone. Don't feel obligated or pressured to invite anyone to your wedding.