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Uninvited guest

JJAF, on June 16, 2019 at 11:38 AM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 6

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A woman who was a coworker of both mine and my in-laws was not invited to our wedding. She did something that offended my FMIL so my FMIL did not want her invited. On the flip side, I also did not want her present at the wedding. In the past (which I am just finding out about now), she asked my FMIL where the ceremony would be so that she may come and attend (and not come to the reception). A few days ago she asked my mom the same thing and said the same thing. What should I do? I don’t like the idea of guests inviting themselves to the wedding (ceremony OR reception) and I don’t want her there because she offended my FMIL (which I don’t think she’s aware of doing). Any advice would be helpful.

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Latest activity by MIWM, on June 17, 2019 at 3:00 PM

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Pirate & 60s Bride · on June 16, 2019 at 11:56 AM
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Maybe you & your FMIL can say, “Oh, it’s a private ceremony” and leave it at that? It would be really rude of her to continue asking questions. But if she did y’all could say “the details are just for family” or “we’re not sharing details at this time.” 🤷‍♀️
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JJAF · on June 16, 2019 at 12:14 PM
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Thank you for the advice! I was a bit peeved knowing that she didn’t contact me directly and felt she was going around my back to come to the wedding. I used to work with her too so she has my contact information or could reach out to me on social media. I do t think she knows that I know she’s been asking around.. so wondering whether a confrontation is warranted
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Cyndy · on June 16, 2019 at 1:05 PM
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I would simply say that it’s a small private wedding and leave it at that. Make sure your FMIL knows what you are telling her so she can say the same thing. You don’t have to feel obligated to invite her....people are rude! It’s YOUR day!!! Good luck!
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January 2019
MOB So Cal · on June 16, 2019 at 8:16 PM
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We had someone pushy enough that after we made it clear they were not invited to the wedding asked if she could attend the REHEARSAL THEN!?!?!?? It was super awkward, but I just straight up said, "that would not be possible...." Some people are really odd.
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Pirate & 60s Bride · on June 17, 2019 at 1:44 PM
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Ugh. I'm not sure about a confrontation. Maybe just prep people she may know to give some canned reply like above.
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MIWM · on June 17, 2019 at 3:00 PM
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Tell her the reception and ceremony are private and by invite only.
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