Why do people assume they are invited to weddings??
Just needing to vent...
We are having a fairly small wedding. I think our guest list tops out at 45 if everyone comes (including the plus ones that a handful of people that were offered). My mom has a bunch of friends that she's known since college and that have known me my whole life. Only one of those friends is invited because she offered to help out by making our save the dates and invitations and any other paper things we might need, plus she's the one out of the group that I see the most anyway (not that I need to justify who I invite to MY wedding...).
My mom explained to any of her friends that asked about the wedding that we had a small budget and we were keeping the guest list small. They all totally understood, weddings are expensive. That was until last night. One of my mom's friends posted on Facebook and tagged both my mom and I saying she was waiting for mail from us. Like what? First of all, if you want to ask if you're invited to my wedding why can't you just talk to me personally about it like an adult? Second, why are you bringing my mom into this? It feels like you're trying to tell on me or something because you didn't get an invite? At no point did I imply that she would be invited. I talked about the wedding in her presence one time back in October at a party in a room full of other people that weren't invited and only because someone else asked about it.
I politely messaged her and explained, as my mom did to all her other friends, our budget is tight and we had to keep the guest list small. For whatever reason, I tried to justify to her that its really only family and a few close friends that are invited. To which she replied "Gee thanks" and "Are you registered anywhere?" And when I told her that she shouldn't feel obligated to get us anything, she apologized that I had to be the one to tell her she wasn't invited. Actually, no one should've had to tell you. But if what you're trying to get at is that you wanted to hear it from my mom then you could've asked her, like all her other friends managed to do. Although again, I don't know why there's a need to bring my mom into it. I get that they're friends, but like I said this woman has known me my whole life.
As of today, we are exactly 2 months from the big day and I feel like everything was going pretty smoothly *knock on wood*. And then here we go with unnecessary drama. I'm just so annoyed with the way she went about this.
I just need to keep repeating to myself "You do not need to justify your guest list" "You do not owe anyone an explanation" "This day is about you and your fiancé" "This is not the hill you want to die on"
