It’s me again. I know zero people who know proper wedding etiquette so this is my go to space for wedding questions. Sorry ladies and gents!
My FH and I have an odd issue with invites. We both have large families but mine are mostly local and his are pretty spread out. He was really close to his cousins growing up but no so much his uncles (they’re basically all an odd bunch). He also works with the public so he has A LOT of friends. I have very few friends that I’m close to and have kept in contact with over the years. He wants to invite ALL of his family and ALL of his friends but we really need to keep our guest list right at 125. My guest list, including friends and family is around 40-45 after he added cousins, their kids and his friends and their kids pushed us to a guest list of 190+. He thinks his family won’t attend and wants to send out invites to everyone with that thought in mind. My worry is that his uncles and the few cousins that live there travel in like a pack. If one decided to go they’ll get a big van and they’ll ALL show up. We can’t afford to have that happen. I get that 100% might not show but what if they DO? I feel really uncomfortable sending invites to 190+ people when we’ve budgeted for 125 and our venues max is 250 (which is really squeezing them in - 150 would be the max I would put in that space). He prefers that his close family and friends be invited. Is there something that we could send the cousins and uncles that aren’t invited, like an announcement after we’re married that won’t seem rude? We will have a total of 125 or so guests and nearly half of those will be my FH’s friends so we can’t really play the “there was no space” card since we could easily univite friends to allow space for cousins.