Unhappy with engagement ring?

What is it about your ring that makes you unhappy? Is it just not your style or did you have a certain vision in mind?

For me, I wouldn't say I wasn't happy or disliked it, but at one point I did have a pinge of "disappointment" for lack of a better word. Mostly due to seeing what everyone else had when I first got engaged vs seeing the beauty and meaning behind mine. Now though, I absolutely love it and couldn't imagine ever replacing it knowing how much thought my FH put into choosing it. It has so much sentimental value to me, that a new ring just wouldn't mean as much.

No but I’ve heard it’s pretty common, especially if the bride didn’t help pick it out. Jewelers can always tweak engagement rings to make you like it a lot more.

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I like my engagement ring, but a friend of mine recently got engaged and is struggling with this.

What exactly don’t you like about your ring?

View Quoted Comment That's hard. I had someone tell me my engagement ring was "petite", although, I knew for a fact that mine cost more than twice what hers did. I helped her husband pick it out lol. I love my ring. I'm not a fan of upgrading but maybe that is a solution for her. She could talk to her FH about working together to find a ring she likes. Maybe even offering to contribute monetarily if that becomes an issue. Ultimately, I would say, it's just a piece of jewelry. The fact that someone thought enough of her to want to marry her is the key here! It's such a special thing!

I was a little disappointed with mine for the first minute or so. Mainly because I had told my FH husband the style of ring I wanted. And what he pulled out was like the polar opposite. It was pretty, but not what said I wanted.

But then he explained it was his grandmas who had just passed and I cried again. He made the right choice.

So I love and hate my engagement ring at the same time. It’s beautiful, but the company FH ordered it from did an awful job of making it, to be completely honest. It has aquamarine side stones (my favorite gemstone), which started falling out after less than a month. They’ve been “fixing it” for almost two months (totally sucks to not have it for so long!) and I don’t know if I’ll ever feel comfortable wearing it when it comes home. So I loved it at first but now I’m sort of dreading getting it back and having it come apart again (three other jewelers told me the setting wasn’t done correctly and tightening the settings wouldn’t do anything).

I think its human nature to always compare whether we like it or not. My FH made my ring exactly how i described and wanted it, yet there are sometimes i second guess making a mistake telling him that i wanted it simple especially seeing the wide variety of rings. I would say to look deep within and see if it stems from truly not being happy with the ring or if you caught up in what others have. Once i bring myself back to focus its easy to remember why I fell in love with my ring in the first place.

I absolutely loved mine from the moment I got it. I knew it was his grandmother's sapphire and he designed the ring himself. He was so proud of the design and I loved seeing how excited and happy he was with it. It's beautiful and sentimental

At first, I was. It wasn’t necessarily bad looking, it was just too flashy for me. I was expecting something very low key and under $300 because I’m a cheapskate and I told him to not go over that lol. He ended up spending in the thousands! I’ve received several compliments and now I love it.

I was at first, but only because the setting was such that I couldn't use my hands and it caught on things. I work in a lab and have to wear gloves, so we took the stone and I designed the setting. I told the jeweler to make the setting "as low as possible without implanting my finger." FH was disappointed for a sec, but understood that I wanted to wear it all day every day and saw the practicality. The original is on top. You can't really see how huge the prongs are. And the new setting is the second one (with the leaves).