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Savvy November 2020

Uneven Number in Bridal Party and Brosmaid

Amanda, on January 3, 2020 at 1:05 PM Posted in Planning 0 11

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Help! I am getting married 11/07/2020 and am trying to finalize our bridal party. How important is it to have the same number of bridesmaids and groomsman?

So far I have asked my 4 bridesmaids. My FH is planning to have 4 groomsman but has yet to ask anyone (a whole different conversation! Haha).
After getting engaged I mentioned to my MOH about her husband being a bridesmaid (brosmaid as I like to call him). We haven’t asked him yet but it’s been brought up a few times. My FH is on board and I’d like to have him in the wedding party and I assume he’ll probably stand on my FH side, but will it look weird if we have an uneven number? Has anyone had or is planning to have a brosmaid and if so, how did you handle it?
I’m sure I’m over thinking this and I’d love to get everyone’s thoughts! Thank you!

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Latest activity by Rebecca, on January 4, 2020 at 4:00 AM

Legend November 2019
Caytlyn · on January 3, 2020 at 1:08 PM
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I don't understand why your attendant would stand on your FH's side. If he wanted him to stand next to him, I'm assuming he would ask. We had uneven sides and mixed genders on either side, no one thought twice about it.
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Master October 2020
Mandi · on January 3, 2020 at 1:12 PM
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Even numbers are exactly 0% important. But your attendants should stand on your side. No matter their gender.
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Devoted June 2022
Sophie · on January 3, 2020 at 1:13 PM
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It's totally fine to have a different number of people on either side. It would also be fine for your MOH's husband to stand on your side if he's closer with you than with your FH. It's very normal these days to have mixed genders on the two sides!
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Legend July 2019
MrsD · on January 3, 2020 at 1:14 PM
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We had 1 more GM than BM. I was in a wedding in 2017 with two more BM than GM. Both times, it was totally fine & no one noticed anything different. My husband didn't ask his groomsmen until around 10 months out, so I wouldn't stress.
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Emily · on January 3, 2020 at 1:25 PM
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I have bridesman and he’ll be standing on my side! The number you each have shouldn’t matter. It’s about who you have next to you
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Megan · on January 3, 2020 at 1:28 PM
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Having even sides is the exact opposite of important. Please have the people that you yourself want in the wedding party standing on your side, regardless of their gender.
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Veronica · on January 3, 2020 at 2:00 PM
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I had a bridesman and my husband had a groomswoman. The bridesman stood on my side and the groomswoman stood on his. If the guy is your friend he should really stand on your side. Uneven bridal parties are very common.
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Dedicated October 2020
Joanna · on January 3, 2020 at 2:52 PM
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I'm having 6 on my side and FH has 5 on his side. I couldn't not ask my 6th bridesmaid!

This is your wedding! Have who you want up there! Numbers do not need to match 🤗
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Savvy November 2020
Amanda · on January 3, 2020 at 5:39 PM
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Thank you for your feedback! I personally have not seen it which is why I thought to reach out to those who have. I guess I should clarify that he has joked about waiting for an invitation from my FH and having to give speeches both of us so I guess this is why I made the assumption on where he would be standing 🤷‍♀️
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Savvy November 2020
Amanda · on January 3, 2020 at 5:44 PM
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Thank you! This is helpful feedback ☺️ I like to plan and know things but you’re right, he has time to ask and 10 months is perfect ☺️
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Rebecca · on January 4, 2020 at 4:00 AM
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DH had 3 groomsmen and 2 groomswomen. I had 3 bridesmaids and 1 groomsman.
Uneven numbers don't matter, gender doesn't matter, just pick the people important to you.
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