Anyone else play sort of unconventional wedding music for cocktail hour or dinner? My fiancé and I are big into alternative music (nothing heavy sounding or anything) and our DJ said to pick songs that mean something to us whatever genre that may be and we have plenty of songs we like that aren’t your typical pop music/ wedding music. My list isn’t all alternative. There’s plenty of “wedding music” but I’m in this weird position of not wanting to off put guests but also want it to feel like MY wedding
We haven't made our playlist yet, but I feel this 100%. My favorite genre is folk/chill and EDM/hardstyle. Our cocktail hour will be mostly folk/chill (Matt Maeson, Hollow Coves)
Definitely can't play much of the second one, because 99% of my guests will not be happy and even though it's my wedding and my favorite music, the reception is absolutely for them you know? We're not playing any of the classic songs (popular here: cupid shuffle, YMCA, etc) but we will be playing popular (hype) hits from now, 10 years ago, 20 years ago, and 30 years ago. I read that incorporating songs that everyone knows but aren't too overplayed is the best way to get the crowd going, so here we go lol
Cocktail hour is when you can definitely play stuff YOU like. Our DJ told us that was the best time to play genres of music that we like but aren’t mainstream. We played The Strokes, Phoenix, Rex Orange County, and other sorts of alternative artists during cocktail hour. No one complained at all 😊 Of course we did more of the mainstream ones for the dancing portion to encourage people to get out there on the floor.
Just a devils advocate but will you be attending your cocktail hour? Most of the time cocktail hour is when the bridal party takes pictures so you may not even get to hear the music you want if it's only playing at cocktail hour!
We're kind of in the same boat as pop punk fans, so we found little ways to incorporate our music into our wedding day, Bridal Party walking down the aisle to a piano version of a Falling in Reverse Song, recessional song is Smash Mouth, and our Reception Entrance songs are System of A Down and A Day to Remember. It was our way of getting the music we like to be played without subjecting everyone else who doesn't like that music to it all night.
Our cocktail hour is going to be instrumental covers of popular songs (I swear this was my idea before Bridgerton came out lol). I figure that's when guests will be mostly mingling around and chit chatting, so I wanted something enjoyable without being too overpowering. We have a handful of "our" songs on our must-play list, but we're also going to allow guest requests and giving our DJ some flexibility.
Our DJ is mostly in charge of the night's playlists (apart from our handful of requests) because I have super eclectic taste. But he showed us some of his curated playlists of instrumental/acoustic remixes of songs that might be considered too "hard" for a wedding.
My partner and I decided that pre-ceremony, cocktail hour, and dinner playlists can be full of crowed pleasers. Kind of how we might serve food that everyone will like, even if it's not a favorite for us. We of course pick the songs for the big moments, like our first dance.
Barring anything super explicit or thrash metal-y, I think you should play whatever you like! Especially during dinner when there might be a moment for you to enjoy it. If you're having dancing, that would be the time to go for the crowd pleasers.
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You had me at SOAD 😍 Which song did you use?
We’re still mulling over our songs; we don’t have an “actual” bridal party so we have to be a smidge creative with our selections and arrangements. Our recessional has been decided for a long time though; it relates to the moment when we both thought “This is the person for me!”
I was going to do jazz/big band music for the reception, but ultimately decided against it. I had a lot of negative feedback and some people even said they'd leave if we played jazz. We're instead playing jazz for the cocktail hour and rock for the reception. I think though that if you have a good mix of music for the reception, you should go ahead and play what you like. I had someone tell me that they can't imagine my wedding without at least a few Queen songs. I imagine your guests feel similarly about you and your music.
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We will be attending our cocktail hour! We’re doing a first look and doing our other pictures beforehand so we can mingle at cocktail hour which gives us a little more time to eat dinner as well lol
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Yeah we’re going to have quite the mix of songs we want. Our DJ is allowing us to pick quite a lot of songs we want played. We’ll have everything from the commodores, warren g, and Nelly to dashboard confessional, blink 182 and blue October lol