Uncertain RSVP's

I have so many of these! People think they can just show up and I'll be happily surprised- no!

I agree with PP. That sounds like a lovely response

Unawarepandabear nailed it.

Give them as much time as you can to figure it out then give them a call to get their final RSVP. I would do it at leas a few days from your actual due date just in case.

I had a few people respond the same way. My response to them was that I had to get the final headcount to the caterer by XX date and I needed their final response before then. I also told them that I didn't want them to respond "Yes" unless they were sure they could attend.

I got a "just mark me as Yes, and I'll try my best" response. Unacceptable.

If people are wishy washy with me for too long, I'm blunt. I tell them that I am providing a nice catered meal and I have to prepay by head for it two weeks in advance. I explain that I absolutely would love for them to come, but I need a firm commitment so I don't waste money or cheat my caterer.

I do have a couple of people that work shift work and knowing their work schedule that far out in advance is impossible. There's 4 people like that. So those situations I understand and explain them to the caterer and we split in half.

At some point they need to give a definite yes, or they will be counted as a no and will be missed.

Give them 1 week to make the decision. Tell them your numbers are due then. If they can't give you a definite answer by then, count 'em out!

We also have 3 of these. Our pp cost for catering is low so I just added them in and if they no show then they no show. I would try one last time on the day your numbers are due. But if you get the same response, then it's up to you to decide what to do.

Thank you everyone. That's perfect, it's so frustrating that people haven't responded and some are so wishy washy with their answers. Ughhhh