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Just Said Yes May 2023

Un-inviting Someone to Wedding… need advice!!!!

Kristen, on February 19, 2023 at 12:13 PM Posted in Etiquette and Advice 0 5
Hi! I’m looking for some advice. We are about 3 months out from my wedding … 2 weeks out from sending invites. There are 2 people that are on the side of my FH that we sent save the dates to but as of recently have continuously gone behind our backs saying really rude and disrespectful things about me and our relationship. They are known to a lot of people in our friend group for a lot of gossip and causing a lot of drama. I am the complete opposite, I hate drama, I hate knowing or having people talk behind my back, especially people that I have always been kind, respectful and caring towards. I love doing things for other people but for once I am being selfish when it comes to our wedding, I want our day to be happy and drama free and I want it to be filled with people who genuinely care about us and show us the same love and respect that we show towards others. I really hate confrontation too but I feel like I need to uninvite these two guests who have really gone out of their way to start rumors, drama etc not just about us, but others invited to our wedding. How do I go about this? Please be kind… this is really the last thing I want to do but again, I just don’t want people there who have been so disrespectful towards us recently.

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Latest activity by Brittany, on February 23, 2023 at 10:51 AM
  • Cece
    Rockstar October 2023
    Cece ·
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    I am so sorry you are going through this. I think you need to address this head-on. You say these people are talking/gossiping behind your back… rise above that, and be the bigger person by addressing their behaviors directly. Let them know that, although you and FH were really excited to celebrate with them such a momentous occasion in your life, in light of recent events you no longer feel their attendance would be appropriate. Let them know it is important for you to be surrounded only by those who love you both and support your relationship; and that their recent actions have shown they do not fall into that category.
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    I would look at this as an ending of a relationship issue, not a wedding invitation issue. While it is in general considered rude not to follow up a STD with an invitation, if you have no wish for further contact with these individuals and don't plan to in the future then you should do what you need to do. My only concern would be if these are close family members, and the drama is likely to be temporary, but it doesn't seem like that's the case.

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  • Lisa
    Rockstar July 2022
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    I agree with both of the above comments. If you have no interest in continuing to have these people in your life, I would address their statements directly with them, and also let them know that based on their unsupportive and disrespectful comments, you feel it is best if they do not attend your wedding.
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  • K
    Just Said Yes May 2023
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    Thank you so much for this comment… it made me feel so much better and it is exactly what is going through my head…. You just put it into well articulated words for me while still being respectful., which is exactly what I was looking for. I so appreciate it ❤️
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  • Brittany
    Dedicated July 2023
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    I agree, I probably just wouldn't send the invite.

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