Ummm........what!?!?

Try using azazie. You just create a showroom on the website of all the dresses you like and then let then choose the style or something that they like. That's what I had my girls do and it worked out perfectly and they all loved the dress they chose. As long as it was the same length and my color, I was fine. It made things easier because it was tough getting a bunch of girls together at once. If that isn't something you want to do, you can just select a couple styles, send them to the girls, see what they like best, then you choose what they wear (make sure you know their budget).

Also, try to remember that no one is going to be as excited for your wedding as you and your fiance are. Yes, they are happy for you and excited for you, but no one will ever be as excited as you (that goes for all brides and grooms).

I'm sure they are excited for you...but no one is as happy as you are. And we can't expect others to be... We are in wedding world right now...and its hard to imagine that others are not.

Life is busy and stressful. Don't take it personally.
I would pick out the dress, tell them the location and let them get sized at their convenience.

Then order them.
You have plenty of time. Don't worry
Congratulations! I'm very excited for you❤

I can kinda relate! FH's side of the family hasn't had many formal weddings either. They're super sweet, but don't really know what goes into planning. It's hard to get their opinions because they're fine with whatever I want - frustrating sometimes cause I want them included in the process! Be patient with them and be understanding! Try not to freak out since you've still got some time to go they'll probably be more excited as the wedding gets closer!

PP have good input on getting bridesmaid dresses sorted. However, I do want to caution you on the attitude that a courthouse wedding isn't a "legit" wedding. Getting married, regardless of how it is done, is legitimate. A full wedding party (traditional ceremony, reception, etc.) isn't for everyone and by dismissing courthouse weddings as "rude" and "not legit", you'll likely alienate many of your family members (not to mention many people on here).

I agree with other PPs, now a days you can just get it online where it's custom made to people's measurements. Or I'm a fan of getting those transformative dresses where it can be tied in different ways to have different styles

It's hard to work with everyone's schedule. There are so many options. If it's important to you to have the dress shopping experience with your bridesmaids, go with who is available. Choose a dress/es and then tell the rest which dress they should get and by what date.

Wow. A couple things:
-A courthouse wedding is a legit wedding.
-No one goes into a marriage thinking they'll get divorced. You can hope it'll be your first and last but sometimes life doesnt play out that way.
-Your wedding is in 10 months, you have SOOO much time to get a BM dress. Also agree with PP about Azazie. We did it for my sisters wedding and they're awesome.

And most importantly:
No one is going to be as excited for your wedding as you are. Repeat that to yourself and you'll save yourself a lot of heartache.

A courthouse wedding is just as legitimate as any other wedding. I'm also not really sure how that has anything to do with your bridesmaids ordering their dresses. You still have 10 months to get BM dresses, that's more than enough time. You don't need all of your bridesmaids with you to select dresses. Take one or two with you, or go by yourself. You could even make it easier on yourself by selecting one online like PPs have mentioned. Just because your friends have lives that don't revolve around your wedding, doesn't mean they aren't excited for you.

Getting married at the courthouse is legit and it is not rude of someone else to have the wedding that works for them. If you've said these things out loud to your bridesmaids, that could be tempering their responses to you.

I told my bridesmaids just to get a long black dress. No scheduled to work around. No worrying about one dress that works for a variety of different bodies and tastes. No stress for me.

View Quoted Comment Agreed. I’m sorry if it’s rude to say, but if your rant is a reflection of who you are as a person then you may have to change your attitude in order to get people more excited. However, I’ll give myself the benefit of the doubt (because you did say it was a rant and we all have our bad days and idk what’s going on behind the scenes) and echo what everyone is saying that no one will be as excited for your wedding as you are.

As for your bridesmaids, besides what everyone else has already said, try asking THEM what dates they’re available and accommodate to them. Don’t take “whatever date you’re free” as an answer, because they always have an excuse.

I wish you the best of luck!

I’m from a family that doesn’t really do big formal weddings either. My cousin was the first to have a wedding in a white dress a few years ago but was really disorganized in her planning. She had a wedding party and they were all in matching dresses but, unfortunately the dress didn’t look good on everyone because they were all shaped very differently.

For myself, I’m keeping my wedding smaller, more planned and organized and no bridal party. That way I have no headaches about making them wear anything in particular.

As someone already stated in a previous reply, your family probably has no idea how much goes into planning a (bigger or more formal) wedding. I know my family was clueless. You can’t expect them to all be super happy about it. My family loves FH and I but there has been really no participation in wedding planning from family on either side. Just be prepared to plan on your own if need be.

Agree with some of the comments above. You mentioned that you are two states away. Are you asking people to spend money to travel? If so, try going to them or do it all remotely. I'm in St Louis and my maid of honor is in Denver. I sent her a link to a certain designer, picked out a color chiffon based on some general selections from here. I set up a private pinterest collaboration board and she uploaded her top 3. I tried them on and picked one. Decided to add my sister as a bridesmaid but she is a much bigger size and different body shape so I took her to the same shop and helped her try on any style that would come in the same color chiffon (same designer). Since I got my dress there, I was discounted 15% on the rest of the bridal party so I just paid for their dresses. You have to make this as easy as possible on them. They could also be worried about needing money at that time. Try talking to one or two who might know the concerns or get them all on a call and be very sensitive and accommodating. They might not be able to relate to this big wedding planning and view it as overkill so get their input and get them excited by the festivities. Have you thought about asking who really can commit and afford to be in the wedding party. You can always pair down the size. I went to a wedding last week and they had 13 people on each side. 13 bridesmaids!!! She just went with a floral pattern and gave them 4 different color scenes to match and had them pick their own dresses. I wouldnt have done that but you can find a way to make this easy. Once the stress of money is over, they may be much more available to help you plan or maybe you and your maid of honor do most of that. Too many opinions/attitudes can be stessful and confusing. I did it with my mom and remotely with my maid of honor in Denver and she just felt bad for not being here in person. I just gave her little assignments to research like shoes or getting ready outfits. If you bridesmaids are really not in it to win it with you, this is going to be the first of many disappointments based on your expectations. Take a breath since you have plenty of time and dont take things too personally. I'm sure they love you. Congrats on upcoming marriage!

My cousin lives 6 hours away from me. So, I am not able to go out and dress shop with her. You know what I did? I gave her my size and wired her the money to buy my dress, the one that she picked all by herself.

For my wedding, I am telling my girls to wear whichever dress they like as long as it’s floor length and my color of choice. My wedding is 5 months away, also in a church and I am not asking for anyone to be as excited as I am about my wedding.

Recap from what others have said:
Courthouse weddings are legit
The first rule of wedding planning is literally nobody but you and the groom are as excited for it. It sucks to hear but it's true.
I suspect you mean first and last wedding you'll attend, and frankly you're young you'll go to another eventually.
I'm the first person to get married sense my parents nearly 30 years ago so I feel you on that.
Now bridesmaids! If they're roughly the same age as you I hate to say it they just being immature, the younger you get married the less excited your friends will be because a lot of them are not in the same phase of life. They likely don't understand that there's extended lead times on ordering wedding stuff.
I would start by telling them it can take months to order bridesmaids dresses and they have to order by X date. Know where and which color you want as well as length. As many people said Azazie has great dresses for a good price, if they don't live close to you do the whole thing online. Online is easier in general, maybe pick a few and send them to the group. Or only have your MOH choose with you.
Personally I'd ask to have them forward me the email or snapshot the receipt so I can track the shipping too, but I'm also overbearing.

Just by the way if you're worried about people not being able to make it guarantee half your guests wont come if your wedding is two states away! Just speaking from experience. I went to my best friends wedding which was just three hours away and more than half the guests did not come. They paid for 100 peoples food and everything and only 30 people came ! It was a nightmare.

Plus this moment is really about you and your FH... a marriage is not a time to show how much better you are than everyone. A courthouse wedding is just as good as a billion dollar wedding.

What does you getting married two states away have to do with a "legit wedding"...?

Also, a courthouse wedding is a "legit wedding." It might not be a big ceremony with a big party, but they are no less married than people who do a larger event at a church or venue.

I have 9 bridesmaid, I did NOT take them dress shopping. F dealing with that! I sent them a color, fabric and length from Azazie and let them pick & order their own dress.

You and your fiancé are probably the happiest ones about your wedding, as it should be. Everyone else has their own lives to live, so their plans don’t shut down simply because you’re getting married.

Send them some dress ideas, ask them which one they like, each BM can get their measurements taken and then place the dress order. Keep it simple.

Woah... Courthous wedding ceremony is a legit wedding.... But ok. I'm slightly offended! Imma get married at a courthouse and my first wedding was a "legit" wedding like you said and want or whatever and I did thought it would be my only one... Don't jinx yourself. Hah! Jinxed.