Ugly Wedding Invitations

I don't think they're ugly, what problems do you see with them?

If you don't like them could you find some other stationary use for them? Thank you cards, bridal shower invites, will you be my bridesmaid type of stuff?

Could you just let her know that you appreciate the thought but you didn't know your color theme when you got engaged and you would like to purchase new ones? Just be assertive!!! Tell her what you want but don't be rude.

I do not think the invitations are ugly, but then those are the sames ones that I used. If they are not the color or style of your wedding then there shouldn't be an issue telling that to your FSIL. If she is comfortable enough impulsively buying you invitations, then I would hope that you are close enough to tell her that they are just not your style.

Edited to add: And I suggest not telling her that you think they are ugly. That would be just plain rude.

I agree, I don't like them. Why would she take it upon herself to buy your wedding invites without consulting you?! That is pretty darn strange.

Why would she purchase invitations?! That's crazy. And rude.

Can you return them? Or get a store credit for something you actually want?

I really like to refer to what I read in a book (which I can't remember the name of right now), which is that you won't remember the look of the wedding, you will remember the feel of it. I think that extends to invitations. If you honestly can't stand the thought of these invitations going out and think you'll harp on it, then thank her for her thoughtfulness and effort but tell her you're going to go in another direction. If it won't matter that much, then go ahead and use them. Ultimately they're just there to get people to the wedding.

I would just not use them. Or use them for your bridal shower or something else. It's super weird she did that.

Use the invites as a save the date. The RSVP as a thank you card.

Ummm... why would she feel like she should take it upon herself to purchase invites and not at least show you the design?

Tell her you appreciate the gesture but those aren't what you had envisioned.

They aren't the worst but I certainly don't like them so I understand your frustration about the design alone. I'd tell her thanks but no thanks. I find this rude and extremely pushy on her part.

Well I can see if you dislike the design but overall it's not ugly. It's slightly neutral in colour so you can add anything to it really like your accent colour as ribbon or envelope etc.

Be honest (leave out the ugly and just her that they are not what you wanted and dont match your wedding). Maybe she can get her money back.

Edit: TBH I think they are pretty ugly... but they are not my style at all.

I think you should address that they just aren't your style. If you don't bring it up now, she will most likely keep buying random things for your wedding.

Thanks ladies. I am thinking maybe I can use some of them for bridal shower and paste some paper flowers over the part I don't like. My wedding is going to be at a summer camp with wild flowers, BBQ, lawn games, s'mores, and a bon fire. These are just too plain and elegant.

I don't think they're ugly. They're plain but I wouldn't call them ugly. I honestly would still use them...people don't care what your invites look like. They won't say "that is the ugliest fucking invitation I've ever seen...I'm not going to the wedding."

But if they bother you as much as they seem to, just let her know that you appreciate the enthusiasm but designing your own was what you looked forward to the most/you didn't know the color scheme/something like that.

If you don't like them just say "Oh shoot I already purchased some, so sorry!"

^ Oh that is a good one~!

Totally heinous. Get rid of them. Paste nothing upon their ignoble sheen. Too ugly to save.

They're kind of plain, but they aren't ugly.