Ugly Bridesmaid Dresses

I would just tell her it's more than you can pay. I wouldnt say its ugly, because she probably doesn't think. Hopefully she understands and changes the dress. She might end up offering to pay for it though, so be prepared to still possibly wear it.

Unless you absolutely can't afford it I would just wear the dress. It's part of your duty as a bridesmaid. Telling her you hate the dress might cause some issues if other bridesmaids have already ordered the dress. If you can't afford it just have an honest discussion with her about your budget. Now if she asked your opinion on it feel free to tell her you hate it.

View Quoted Comment Your right. I'm hoping that when we go for the fitting she can see that a dress made for a short person with a short torso does not look good on a tall person with a long torso.

Did she ask your input on the budget? If she did then flat out tell her that it's not in your budget. We tell brides here all the time to not pick dresses over the lowest bm budget.

She didn't ask anyone anything. And I'm not very inclined that much for a dress that doesn't fit my body type to be honest. I love the color though. Lol.

How much over your budget is it? Did she ask what budgets were prior to picking it? If it were me, budget would be the only issue because that makes sense for you not being able to buy it. For the not being your style or pretty part, that's kind of just part of being a bridesmaid.

I was in a wedding not to long ago and the dress was ugly, to small for me and way too much money. I just sucked it up though because I knew my friend loved it.

The only thing I'd suggest is maybe when you're at the appointment try on a similar but nicer dress and go on and go about how much you love it, if that doesn't work unfortunately you're going to have to make the best out of the ugly dress.

If you can afford it (and it sounds like you can it just may be more than you’re happy to pay), you should definitely buy the dress and wear it with a smile. Buying whatever dress the bride picks out is one of the only things asked if a bridesmaid. The wedding isn’t about your style or taste so unless it’s obscene and revealing I would buy the dress.

You shouldn't have to pay for something that is outside of your budget, period.

ETA: I also don't see anything wrong with expressing your concerns over the fit either. If you look and feel horrible in the dress it will show.

View Quoted Comment Some people simply can’t just pay over budget for a dress.

View Quoted Comment She said it was more than she expected not once did she say she it was over budget or couldn’t afford it. It seems she’s only upset on price because it’s ugly.
If it is a money thing than I get it but it doesn’t seem to be.

If she's your friend, I say just suck it up and deal. The wedding is about her and planning it is stressful enough. If my BFF wanted me to wear a $500 potato sack to her wedding, I'd do it because I love her and want to support her on her day. But if you do want to approach her about it, bring up your concerns about the bad reviews that way its not about you.

View Quoted Comment I get your point the bride also. Never asked budget. So yes if I could afford it I would get it. But if it was out of my budget then I world not be able to.

Not to victim blame, but has the bride previously been a bridesmaid in many other weddings -- even, perhaps, your own? Maybe I'm just triggered, but I've heard countless bridesmaid complaints from former brides who literally did not brook any input when it was their own wedding -- bride-tatorships, not bride-tocracies -- yet are utterly bewildered when such "bridezilla-esque" behavior is exhibited by others/directed towards them. (I hate that term, and am only using it here as an imperfect catchall term for bride-centrism--aka the "bride's big day"/"bride's special day"/"it's all about the bride" mentality and behavior that flows therefrom.) I don't think such brides are explicitly motivated by payback (perhaps for a $400 lime green one-shouldered taffeta dress still hanging in the back of her closet?), but rather feel their prior bridesmaids' experiences give them a blank check to disregard wedding party feelings, input, concerns, cost, etc. (or any potential bridezilla boogey-man) since no such consideration was given to them when she was wearing the ugly bridesmaid shoes. Important note: once this has mentality has metastasized, it applies regardless whether the particular bridesmaid was actually responsible for said lime green monstrosity; it's applied at the organizational rather than individual level. So... if any of the above rings familiar, I hope ya look good in daffodil-colored satin and have a "[insert bride's name here] wedding savings account" with a > $3k balance for all bridesmaid-related costs!