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Devoted October 2019

Ugh-mom is adding guests

Cathy, on September 15, 2019 at 8:12 PM Posted in Planning 0 7

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One of my Mom’s friends was invited, along with a plus 1; she RSVPd for 1 person. Now my Mom wants that person’s “Date” to be one of her friends whom I didn’t invite. (The Singleton and the “date” know each other).
Im not OK with this at this late date. Am I overreacting? My Mom saw the guest list when it came out and didn’t have anyone to add. The reason I didn’t invite this person is I don’t really know them-she is my Mom’s friend, not mine.
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Latest activity by Jennifer, on September 16, 2019 at 7:15 AM

VIP September 2019
Mrs. Bubba · on September 15, 2019 at 8:30 PM
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Say no and mean it.

Congratulations and 🍀‼️
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Champion October 2018
Kelly · on September 15, 2019 at 8:36 PM
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I would tell her that invitations are not transferable.
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Jennifer · on September 15, 2019 at 9:05 PM
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Is mom paying?
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Kori & Daniel · on September 15, 2019 at 9:16 PM
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Is it your wedding or your mom's wedding? LOL
We had the same issue with my Fiances mom inviting all of her friends, even co-workers we don't know. He told her not everyone will be invited straight up....his mom had a little glare but he said we don't know them, they most likely won't travel 4 hours away so why waste the money on more invites, and we bought our Save The Dates after 3 months of warning for who our parents may want invited so if there is any extra we will send them out.
All and all... say it is your wedding (not her's) and you do not want random people crashing your big day!...just in a nice tone of voice if able.
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Devoted October 2019
Cathy · on September 15, 2019 at 9:33 PM
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She’s paying for bits and pieces here and there. The cost is being split among me and my fiancé and our parents.
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Julie · on September 15, 2019 at 10:41 PM
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I dunno...it's one person. I know per person costs are a lot, but when it's one person, it usually doesn't make a difference. Caterers almost always make extra food (unknown allergy, feeding vendors, etc). Maybe if she asks about more, you put your foot down. But I'm going to be in the minority here, I think. If you're really not okay with it, though, then you know your answer.
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Jennifer · on September 16, 2019 at 7:15 AM
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I guess I would personally consider what is fair in terms of what the person is helping pay for. If she only wanted 2 guests and it was fair, I'd probably just let it happen. My FH father is assisting with the wedding cost pretty significantly and we ran our whole GL through him and his wife before finalizing anything.
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