Two "weddings" with the same dress

Meh, you could try I guess. You could have a completely unplugged wedding.

But I think people like to post things in the moment, selifes, funny moments and touching memories in real time. I'm not sure I would post wedding pictures at all after the two months if I was a guest. . . and then you may miss some really good photos your guests took.

Ahh such good points!! Maybe I will have an unplugged ceremony, that way at least people won't see that, then who really cares about the reception pics lol. I forgot people did the unplugged thing so thanks for suggesting that!!

Of course you can ask...and if I were your American guest, I'd absolutely honor your request. Do you have any issue with the guests at your American reception posting pics of themselves

having fun with other guests at your American reception -- as long as the bride isn't in the pic?

Rachel, its the UK wedding that would not be able to have the pictures.

The American wedding is two months later.

Okay...then change "American guests" to "English guests". Whichever wedding happens first, her guests should honor her request. But, I'd still like to know if she's okay with the first wedding guests, the English guests, posting pics of themselves having a good time with other guests -- as long as she isn't in the pics. I think the point was kind of obvious.

You could try, but two months is a long time (my mom would die if she couldn't post everything on Facebook, ha!). If they were a week or two apart I think you'd have more luck, but it's worth a shot anyways! I think I would feel the same way.

I would just create settings on Facebook where you have to approve posts first for them to be seen on your page and then not approve those

Oh why don't you use wedpics.com I used it for my wedding it was a great way to see guests photos but only those with the password could see it. Perhaps put a note on your programs saying you would prefer photos not to appear in social media but would love to share in your guests day on

Wedpics.com then you also include your username and password so they can link to your wedding. Only the guests at the wedding who have your details can view and add photos. I got so many wonderful pictures uploaded, included Ones of family kids which I know thier parents wouldn't have shared on Facebook but as it was only family and friends using that account they uploaded them too. It was great!!!!

For your American wedding you could either set up a second account or use the same one and again at the wedding give them detail and let them share in your uk day.

I don't see an issue at all. You are literally making the effort to have a second wedding for those who cannot make it to the US, so I don't think is weird or cheap to use the same dress!

If you're talking FB, just make all your photos private until both weddings are over.

Can your dress be styled two different ways? If so, you could change your accessories (jewelry, belt, bolero/sleves, hair, etc.) to make it look special for each event.

I personally don't feel it will "take away" from your look. My husband and I eloped at the courthouse in December, and this November we are having a celebration and small religious vow renewal. I will be wearing my dress again, even though I've already shared photos of my wedding day ~look. I know my situation is a little different since guests didn't see me in real life, but I am changing up my vow renewal look with my hair and bouquet. I think it's a way to deter from those "they've already seen me" feelings!

That said, I don't think it's too much to ask of your guests.

Thank you so much everyone!! Such good ideas, also I totally didn't even think of doing the approval tag! It works perfectly as my family over there are most likely not going to be friends with anyone who is coming to this wedding besides my family over here (who will be there anyway). That works so well! Also the wedpics app is a great idea! I had a friend use that at her wedding and I totally forgot about it, thank you!! You guys are great

Also I'm thinking that maybe I will change for the reception at the first wedding so that theres no risk of my dress getting ruined before the American wedding so that way at least there are going to be far less pictures of it!! But also @WHO? Mrs. Jones and @Melissa I think I will be styling my hair differently as well and that is a good idea to mix up the bouquet as it really does change the whole look! Thanks!