Two wedding dates

The October one is not a wedding..your already married...it's a vow renewal...

You have one wedding date, the date you eloped. October will be your vow renewal date.

The second ceremony is a vow renewal, so you only have one "wedding" date.

I know it's a vow renewal but it would be different than my actual wedding date? Does it make sense

What exactly are you asking then? You're already married and 10/3/17 would be the vow renewal.

Yes, it's okay if your vow renewal is on a different day than your original wedding day.

Just make sure it is known that this is not your wedding date...guest might get confused if you start flashing around a different date than 10/3/17...you know?

I think she's asking if you have to have a vow renewal on an anniversary, or if it's okay to have it on a random date that isn't an anniversary of your wedding date.

I think it's okay to plan a renewal for whatever date you want.

Here we go again. Call it whatever you want in October, and do what you want. If everyone knows you're married and some of them are pissed, you should definitely call it a vow renewal or a celebration of your wedding.

I'm usually a little more positive when there is some compelling reason to do this (you know, visas, health insurance, illness, deployment) rather than just whim, but hey, it's done.

No. It doesn't have to be on your anniversary.

Em in my home country you have to register first (legally married) then do a wedding to announce it. So almost all couples including my parents have two dates. They chose the one they legally married for the anniversary.

We are doing the same thing. Our immediate family was informed and supportive. Being that we are both in the service it was going to be hard to fine a date right now. So we are having a "marriage celebration" / vow renewal once I have completed my obligation. It is a very common thing to do these days especially for those in the military. As it was said before, it doesn't matter what you want to call it.