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Savvy December 2020

Two wedding ceremonies????

Abigail, on May 14, 2020 at 12:09 AM Posted in Community Conversations 0 9

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Hi guys, my original wedding date was June 27th but due to the pandemic FH and I decided to postpone everything to next year March. We however wanted to get married legally, we were able to get our marriage license but unfortunately the courthouses in Georgia are on lockdown. Initially the lockdown was suppose to end May 13th but it was extended to June 12th. I was really trying to avoid a small religious ceremony (where my pastor could sign the license) because I felt it would take away from the big ceremony next year. Now my fear is that the courthouse might extend the lockdown after June 12th and we still won’t be able to be legally married. My question is for those who postponed but had a small ceremony anyways, do you guys feel your actual big ceremony will be less special? Do you feel weird having two ceremonies? I am just so stressed sigh...
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Latest activity by Tera, on May 18, 2020 at 2:16 PM

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Tera · on May 14, 2020 at 12:25 AM
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My original date was May 16. We are having our small ceremony June 27th and a celebration of marriage reception in September. We have decided to only have our one ceremony but we will have our parents and siblings present so it’ll be just as special. We are doing our ceremony small but as nice as we are able with the current situation. In my parents home/ garden and I plan to wear my wedding gown. Both ways are fine it just depends on whether you want two ceremonies or if it’ll be important for you and your families.
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Savvy December 2020
Abigail · on May 14, 2020 at 12:37 AM
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Unfortunately none of parents will be able to make since they are currently out of the country and with the borders closed they won’t be here physically. They have however giving us the go ahead to be legally married. I still want my big ceremony where I could share that day with my parents and family.
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Tera · on May 14, 2020 at 1:03 AM
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In that case; it’s completely understandable how you feel. I think if I couldn’t at least have my parents there I would feel weird about it honestly. I think in your case having two ceremonies would be special in different ways. One ceremony with just you and your fiancé and maybe could livestream it and the big one with everyone in March. I don’t think it would take anything away. Try not to worry or stress things will work out soon. I actually got sick with Covid-19 in April and thankfully recovered. I was sad about getting sick and having to postpone my wedding. But it put things into perspective; we can’t control anything and can only be positive and Patient.
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Abigail · on May 14, 2020 at 9:12 AM
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Ooh wow Thank God you recovered, and thank you for your kind words and perspective. Love and light to you on your upcoming ceremony.
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Alani · on May 14, 2020 at 11:24 AM
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I got legally married in November last year! My wedding date was June 27 this year but I moved it to June next year. I’m waiting to have a wedding ceremony just because the legal paperwork thing we did not make special and we will do actual vows on our wedding day.
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Just Said Yes May 2021
FaithHAIK · on May 14, 2020 at 1:07 PM
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With the virus, I think wedding traditions have changed dramatically. No one really knows how to move forward in this new territory of wedding planning etc. We were to be married on June 6, 2020 but had to postpone our wedding date to May 1, 2021. We are legally going to get married on our original date with a small elopement ceremony but I still want to do everything we had planned on our big wedding day. I say, do whatever you want. Don't worry about what's right or wrong. Some people have even told me weddings are for your guests more than the bride and groom. So think of your small legal ceremony celebrating the love between you and your significant other then the wedding celebration a big party to have with everyone. Cheers-
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Abigail · on May 14, 2020 at 2:07 PM
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Thank you ladies for your kind words, I feel much better...
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Rosa · on May 14, 2020 at 10:23 PM
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Hi Abigail,
I split my wedding as well. The ceremony will be this year (in one week) following the rules about social distancing and only 10 people attending. In my state, any person can get a certification to be Justice of the Peace for one time in specific date. So I asked a friend to be the justice of the peace. I will wear a nice new dress and trying to make the day special too. My family lives out of the country so I will transmit the ceremony by Zoom.
The second part would be the party, like I call it, and it will be next year with our guests and family. I will wear my wedding dress that day because I want tons of pictures with my family, and me wearing that dress.
So, there is not right or wrong, just try to do something where you feel comfortable and happy.
Good luck!
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