I wasn't sure where to post this but here goes...
My FI has finally realized how large my family truly is. We're talking 110 immediate family members, before getting into distant relatives and friends. Well, he no longer wants a large wedding like we originally planned. I'm not sure why he had a change of heart, maybe to cut down costs? I mean he gets along great with my entire family and they all just love him to death. I had mentioned that when I was dating someone else (years ago), that my parents would pay for a small ceremony on Mackinaw Island in Michigan. That would include my parents, brothers, grandparents, and his parents, siblings, grandparents. I would still like the larger wedding. It's kind of like a tradition in my family, because we're such a large family. We've always been super close and love helping out at these weddings.
We are looking to compromise on what we would like to do for a wedding now. Two wedding and two receptions came up in the discussion. We were thinking of taking my parents up on the more private ceremony, then having a larger one a few months later. There are two problems with this though. One is that his brother is engaged as well and they haven't set a date yet. So, we have no idea on what they are doing and don't want to potentially take two days away from them for next year. The next is my FMIL, she loves to post and share photos on social media. If we did the private ceremony, I would want it to be just that private. No sharing anything on social media. They could still take pictures and post about the trip. I just wouldn't want the wedding to be mentioned. I know my family would be fine with it, I've had other family members do elopements.
My FI and I are more on the private side anyways. We don't post or share much on social media. So when I think about the private ceremony, I wouldn't want it plastered everywhere until we were ready to share it. Maybe I'm over thinking it. But I could really use some advice on this...
