Two separate rsvps on the website

No, because all of my guests are invited to the entire event. You should strongly reconsider splitting up your guest list this way, you're going to have a lot of hard feelings when people find out.

It’s considered rude to only invite people to the ceremony and I would expect a lot of confusion. We had RSVPs to 2 separate events because we needed numbers for our welcome party the night before the wedding as well. Everyone was invited to both but not everyone attended both.

Unless you're having only immediate family (ie parents siblings, and sometimes grandparents) at the ceremony, it is rude to invite people to one part of the wedding and not the other.

I can see how someone will be invited to reception only (if ceremony space is limited), but why would someone who’s invited to the ceremony not be invited to the reception?

I think it would be confusing as a guest if there were different rsvp options for the same day.

Thanks for the response ladies. I should have explained better. I am having a traditional ceremony on one day and then an intimate reception with close family the next day. Everyone who is invited to the reception is invited to the ceremony but everyone who is invited to the ceremony is not invited to the reception.

Guess i cannot really split the site.

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If you aren't serving food for an event (ceremony only), I don't think an RSVP headcount would be necessary.

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That's rude. The reception is a thank you for attending the ceremony. At the very least you need to host cake and punch (if it's not a meal time) for those who attended the ceremony. Or cut your ceremony guest list to just those who are invited to the reception (although I think you should have them on the same day).

You can do this on Zola - guests will only be able to RSVP for events that they are invited to.

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Thank you ChristineI :-)

I used the appy couple website. You can allow certain to see (Rsvp) specific events. For example, only the ladies invited to my bridal shower could see that event and RSVP for it.

Ignore the people that start their opinons with, "It's rude..." As a newly appointed wedding coordinator (which is what all of us brides on wedding wire are), we are all on this board because we are trying to find the best way to do things. We are trying to be considerate of others, all while planning the wedding of our dreams. If we were truly being RUDE, then we would just do whatever we wanted to WITHOUT considering our famy and friends.

People, please, just answer her question. Stop giving unsolicited opinions. If you still want to provide an opinion, just be nice about it.