Two officiants....why or why not

You are the bride so it's really up to you with what you want or are comfortable with. The sand blending is actually an adaptation of the unity candle and symbolizes virtually the same thing. It works great for couples who are having their ceremony outside.

Two officiants can be done in a way that honors you both. Your officiant would read parts of the ceremony addressed to you and his would read parts addressed to him. You would /could choose one to read the wedding vows to you both and the other to perform the ring exchange.

My suggestion is to be firm about what you want with your family (in a polite way of course) but be open to compromise with your groom. Best wishes to you both!

Thanks for the advice, but both of these people are from my side.. My pastor is the pastor the church I grew up in, but she has not been there but for 5 years. The other is my 1st cousin, he isabout 37-40 years old. My FI would like for my cousin to be our officiant, he didn't state why, but I believe he doesn't want 2 officiants

I think two officiants would be ok if you had one representing each of your religions but I foresee problems with a very strict pastor and someone else who may have different, less strict beliefs being asked to work together. If it's not what you want, don't give in to it - the ceremony should be the most important part of your marriage.

My FH and I have four different religions between our four parents. We are choosing to have a completely non-religious ceremony to avoid all conflict.

I see issues with two, I would go with your cousin!

Your the bride, do what you want!

I am having my uncle marry me (he is a pastor) and it means so much to me to have a family member do it!! So I think you should definitely have your cousin do it, and get the wedding/ceremony you want!

I do want only my cousin, but at the same time I will feel bad because I feel like, since my I grew up in the church my pastor should officiant the wedding also. I'm not sure if I mentioned but my ceremony is not going to be my home church, but at a bigger church

I had 2 made the ceremony go more smooth

Thats for your comments....Why did you have two...We they both apart of your church or family? I just like to heear people's viewpoints on things?

Who told you the Methodist ceremony was strict?! sounds like someone is feeding you a line of bull. We have a Methodist pastor performing our ceremony and FH isn't even Christian. . . that ceremony setting is very adaptable (no unity candle required). Just think, if you get to the bottom of this, you can have the ceremony you want AND please mom (a baptist ceremony is going to be MORE strict, not less)

Oh and I DO have this on good authority (my mom is a Methodist Pastor)

I'm a civil officiant and I have co-officiated with ministers/celebrants/laypeople who were not authorized to officiate in Florida. In those cases, I had them to the "religious" parts of the ceremony while I did the parts legally required by the State of Florida. Really, no problem at all (except with 1 brand new minister who read the whole vow and then expected the B&G to repeat the whole thing -- I give them just a few words at a time to repeat).

I've co officiated with several officiants, but usually it's because the religions are vastly different.

It may be that this particular pastor isn't as strict as some others, but it's your wedding and you should be able to do what is comfortable for you.