Two moh

I didn’t deal with that but I did have two MOHs and I agree with you. At the end of the day they’re all just titles

I think she will hopefully get over it and realize it's your wedding and she is in the highest position she can be in as a sister and MOH.

I have 3 MOHs and I told them all that it’s because they’re equally important to me and I wanted them to feel honored and be my main support system. While none of them reacted that way, I was prepared for one of them to. Nobody should feel entitled to the position. It’s your wedding, you get to pick. At the end of the day, a title in a one day event should not change your relationship. I’m sorry you’re dealing with this, your sister is being very unfair.

I am so sorry. I have 2 MOHs and neither said anything negative when I told them, even though I did expect the one to. She did say something a while down the road, and I just told her that I loved them both and that she needed to understand that my love for the other did not mean I loved her any less. Its annoying to have to explain that to a full grown adult, but I was not surprised.

I would tell your sister that she can either accept the position of MOH gracefully and share the title, or that she can step down from the bridal party entirely

I do not think she has a reason to be hurt because she is sharing a title. I would understand if she were a bridesmaid but sometimes that happens. I have seen a sister and a bridesmaid be MOH's. I would not say anything and if she brings it up just say that you are not changing your decision as while she is important to you so is your friend and you hope she will put her feelings aside and fully support your day. If she cannot then she can be a guest IMO.

I have 2 MOH's, one is my sister. My best friend is like a part of my family. She was happy to share the title with her. She is local and my best friend is not so she has taken on the role of planning and has been happy to do so. My best friend I could not imagine NOT being a MOH and she helps from afar as she can. Your sister just needs to happy, they're just titles!

OMG! I have the same dilemma. I have a best friend I have known for almost 12 years. I brought the idea of having 2 MOHs to my sister, she freaked out! I ended up just having my sister as MOH. SMH!

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Ugh! i dont want to cater to her! that not fair to me!

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She's never been in my position, so she doesn't get it. I know it's not fair, but she went on about how she doesn't feel special anymore, blah blah. I didn't want to deal with it, so I am like whatever. I also have 3 other bridesmaids, so I guess I don't want them to feel left out if I choose 1 friend to be MOH.

I have 2 MOH's and they were both expecting it so no one was mad! One of my friends even insisted that the other girl should be the one given the title. Your sister should definitely be more understanding - after all, she is your sister, how much better of a title can you have?! I know someone who chose their best friend over their sister to be the MOH as well, so she should be happy that you honored them both! Just explain to her that you love them both a ton and didn't want either to feel left out.