Two moh - Different Titles

This doesn't make sense. The "title" of MOH is based on how close of a friend the person is to you, not based on what they are doing for you. The two titles to choose from for MOH are "Maid of Honor" for an unmarried female and "Matron of Honor" for a married female. Otherwise, the "titles" are "bridesmaids" and/or "maid/matron of honor." I'm confused by your attempt to distinguish "day of" and "bridal party" bridesmaids. What do you mean? If you are wanting to recognize the person throwing your bridal shower then you do that by buying her/them a hostess gift and giving it to her/them at the end of your shower. You don't need to give that person a separate title.

Rankings? Higher title? This isn't an army. Or a pageant.

If someone chooses to have a moh, that person aught to be the absolute closest friend/family member to the bride. That's it. It's not a ranking just an acknowledgement of the relationship. Sometimes it is near impossible to decide between two people and so two are chosen.

As far as your question goes, don't use a new title. It would come across as second best. There's no reason to do that.

I agree with eerias and Mim above. you do not rank BM and MOH according to what they do for you. Ever. That would be rude, since the titles are intended to be an honor, and have the same duties. At the time you pick your bridal party, MOH, or 2 MOH sometimes, are the ones you have known longest, or are closest to. Period. The BM are close friends and family. Often it seems that MOH do more. But that is because often, if they have the time and money, they who have known you longer or are closer, in any relationship, are more likely to do things than people less close. But even if they do nothing more than come to a rehearsal ( if close) and show dressed and groomed for the wedding, they are still the people closest or whom you have known longest. That does not change. . . Any 1 or more BM or MOH, or any female family of yours, or any close friend of the bride not in the bridal party at all, or MOG or other of groom's female relatives, can offer to throw a shower. The person who does, or the group, do the planning, decide how many guests, and who from the bride's list ( of her closest friends and family invited to the wedding) is invited. The shower hostess(es) then agree on their budget,before any planning, and only those planning, contribute. If a hostess wants a small, less expensive shower at home or in a small space, and invites 8-15 people, someone else plans another shower 200 miles away for your friends from school or hometown, and MOG plans a welcome to groom's family shower, you could have 3 showers. You do not make the BM who plan, and the friend not in WP at all, and MOG & aunt of groom all MOH because each is doing a shower. Do not confuse roles. Any of your close relatives, or grooms, or BM or MOH, or friends, whether they do a shower, or a bachelorette, or plan and do all your centerpieces and flowers for free cuz they want to and volunteer, are never ranked. MOH does not mean boss or coordinator of others. . . Decide who you are closest to, or have known longest, and choose to honor them as MOH, even if they do less than 10 other people. BM, rest of bridal party, whether they do most or least.

I am confused by all of this. Do you want to “rank” your friends? What are day of and bridal part bridesmaids?

Rankings, titles, etc are just confusing language that misunderstand the purpose of a bridal party. The MOH and best man are your best friends, the ones you are closest to. The groomsmen and bridesmaids are other people that you are close to and want by your side on your big day.

I had a bridesmaid who went all out on the week of the wedding; she did SO much to help. But she was still a bridesmaid, and that was still an honor. I didn’t thank her by “ranking” her higher than my sisters or giving her a made-up title, I thanked her by writing a handwritten card letting her know how grateful I was for all her extra help.

My DH had two best men; we refused to give different titles because we refused to rank our friends like that. One of them jokingly referred to themselves as the “better man” because they weren’t standing right next to DH during the ceremony, but they were both his best men and that’s what we called them. Have a maid of honor, have two, but don’t make up titles and rankings because it just falls flat and feels fake.

Yeah, don’t rank them. Doing that will make everything more awkward. For my brother’s wedding, I was “just” a bridesmaid but I did a lot more of the leg work than the MOH (she was very pregnant and already had a large family). I didn’t feel like I needed to be distinguished from the others for doing more. I was happy to be a part of the day and just help out. If I had been given some sort of special title, I would have felt bad for the other BMs.

I have 4 MOHs and no BMs. One has been doing more and helping more because she is the only one who lives near me, but I love all of the ladies equally so I have them each the same title.