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Just Said Yes August 2020

Two mini-ceremonies in two states due to coronavirus-- how to make them each special?

Jane, on June 8, 2020 at 7:27 PM Posted in Community Conversations 0 5

Hi everyone,

Due to coronavirus, my fiancé and I decided to postpone our wedding celebration to next year, but we would like to have our ceremony this year. We are trying to figure out how to get married this August but still include both of our families, who live on opposite sides of the country. Family is very important to both of us, but we each have a parent who is sick and unable to travel safely with coronavirus concerns.

The solution that we are considering is to have 2 mini ceremonies, a few days apart in separate cities-- one mini ceremony with my family and one with his family. However, we are worried one ceremony won't feel "real". Plus exchanging the same rings twice might feel weird. Also, vows... should we say the same vows twice to reaffirm them, or have a different "script" with each ceremony to keep things new? Any advice on how to make this work out? Has anyone else done this before? Any advice would be appreciated! [Also, who would've imagined a few months ago having to make such wild/creative/unprecedented wedding choices?!] Thanks everyone!

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Latest activity by Lynn, on August 17, 2020 at 8:16 PM
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    Legend June 2019
    Melle ·
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    Maybe you can consider doing two different unity ceremonies? i can't imagine reading any personal written vows to each other twice - not that you can't though but i can see you doing two different unity ceremonies too if that helps make it feel more unique and special for each one

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  • Courtney
    Super September 2019
    Courtney ·
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    Will one of these ceremonies be your legal ceremony? If so, one could be more geared toward that and signing your marriage license and exchanging vows. The other could be more focused on a unity ceremony (we did a handfast so that comes to mind) or exchanging rings and maybe vows you write yourself? These are unprecedented times but I’m sure you’ll find a way to make both ceremonies special!
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  • Elizabeth
    Super June 2021
    Elizabeth ·
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    I love Courtney's idea - I would focus each one on something different. If this was us, we'd get married legally on our own so we weren't picking favorites between families, and then do two separate unity ceremonies (maybe one candle and one sand, etc.) with each family.

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  • Lynnie
    WeddingWire Administrator October 2016
    Lynnie ·
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    I love the ideas of different unity ceremonies and ceremony elements!

    But no matter what I think these ceremonies will both feel incredibly special because of the people who will be with you! I've had plenty of friends do two wedding ceremonies before covid - some were working on visas and had time constraints, some wanted a catholic ceremony with their family and then a less religious ceremony at the public wedding - and they've all said that both ceremonies were incredibly memorable and touching in different ways. ❤️

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  • Lynn
    Savvy September 2022
    Lynn ·
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    I would do something different for each to make it special. I'm doing a community vow + "mini" vows for our minimony with 20 ppl, more intimate vows for our elopement adventure and then full vows for our 2022 wedding. So many choices! I feel ya.

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