Two Maid of Honors?? (sorry it's so long)

Hello Brides!! I'm 53 Days Away!! Yikes! LOL! Looking for some opinions/suggestions on an issue I'm having with my Maid of Honor. My FH and I are having 2 people each in our wedding party. Initially, the traditional Best Man/Maid of Honor and then Groomsman/Bridesmaid. That being said, my best friend of 30 years, who I asked to be my MOH, lives locally. My other bridesmaid, a friend of 20 years, lives 10 hours away in another state. After being included in EVERY group message I created for both of them and not much response, I have given her multiple "outs" as you would say. She keeps saying that there's no issue, she wants to be my MOH, etc.... My mother and my out of town bridesmaid have planned and paid for my Bridal Shower because, once again, my local MOH has not responded to any messages, had an opinion, offered to help, ask a question or ANYTHING! I am printing my program soon and am just wondering if I can list both women as MOHs? I am aware I could do Maid and Matron, but neither one of them are married. Or, do I need to make them both 'Bridesmaids'? And, if I do, it was mentioned to me that both of the men will have to be listed as 'Groomsman' as well. Minus my frustration and disappointment in my MOH, this whole experience has taught me one thing! Longevity means nothing, I felt like my best friend of 30 years would be really excited and helpful and There for Me and it turns out, 53 days out and all the benefit of the doubt I've given her, I was wrong. I have friends I've known for 6 months that have and would have done more for me than she has and that is sad. Thanks for your help And Congratulations to all of you!