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Beginner August 2017

Two groomsmen can't attend

Norma , on August 6, 2017 at 10:54 AM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 17

Two groomsmen decided 6 days before our wedding they can't attend . That leaves us short is it bad if I have two bridesmaids be ushers walk down the aile together and not stand up with Me? How bad does it look to not be even?. Or what other solutions/options do I have?

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Latest activity by Tresa, on August 6, 2017 at 11:52 AM
  • Ashley
    Dedicated May 2018
    Ashley ·
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    I think it's rude to in a sense kick them out, I'd just leave it uneven..

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  • FME
    Master March 2018
    FME ·
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    I don't get people's obsession with sides being even. It is what it is, have uneven sides no one will care.

    ETA it would be so rude and inconsiderate to kick 2 of your bridesmaids out and assign them as ushers because you're more worried about even sides than your friendships.

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  • Danielle
    Dedicated June 2018
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    It will be fine to be uneven. Your photographer will find creative ways for the photos.

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  • N
    Master December 2016
    Nancy ·
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    6 days before? This has taken the concept of rude to a new level.

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  • Danielle
    Dedicated October 2017
    Danielle ·
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    Uneven is more than fine!!!

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  • Alforev
    VIP August 2018
    Alforev ·
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    It will be fine uneven, but wow I'd be furious about the groomsmen decided they can't attend so close to the wedding. I'm sorry you and your FH are going through that!

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  • Erin Wood
    Master July 2017
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    Let it be uneven. Honestly nobody is going to remember that at your wedding there were more BM's than GM's. Don't punish your BM's just because the GM's are rude.

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  • Mrs. Coakley
    Master June 2017
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    It's okay to have uneven sides. Did they say why they can't come?

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  • Hannah
    Super August 2017
    Hannah ·
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    Why not just have the last two walk together and go stand at the front. Why kick them out because two of the guys bailed?

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  • P
    VIP October 2017
    P ·
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    Agreed with PP - just leave it uneven. You can have them walk down together if you want, but they should be standing by your side. Think of it this way: the people standing by your side are the ones you want standing next to you as your marriage goes forward. Do you really want to ask them to sit down instead?

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  • Maria
    VIP March 2016
    Maria ·
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    Uneven is fine, if your worried about people walking down the aisle perhaps try a different format. Here it's tradition that the men are already standing up at the top, the groom and his best man and groomsmen. They are normally there chatting with guests prior to ceremony. Then walking up the aisle we have whatever little people are involved (ring bearer, flower girl) then bridesmaids one at a time, MOH and then bride and who ever is giving her away (if your doing that). No one would notice uneveness if you do it that way. Being honest though it makes no difference.

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  • Hahnsolo
    Super March 2018
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    PP has it ever occurred maybe there was a good reason the couldn't attend? You sound like you'd be a great friend *rolls eyes*

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  • Kati
    Expert September 2017
    Kati ·
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    I'd leave it uneven. I'd be upset if I was a BM and bought my dress and was told 6 days before I wasn't in the wedding anymore. Uneven parties are fine.

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  • Emily
    Master May 2014
    Emily ·
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    Let your BMs stand up with you. Geez. It's not their fault that the GM backed out. That would be so rude to tell them they have to be ushers and no longer "allow" them to stand up with you. Uneven sides don't matter.

    The GM situation is unfortunate but that doesn't mean you have to treat your BMs horribly in return!

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  • Celia Milton
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    Leave it. Your wedding party isn't recreating the Last Supper. It doesn't have to be even, and you don't insult the people who have supported you by accommodating those who bails.

    Most of my BP's are uneven. It's not a big deal.

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  • Tresa
    Dedicated August 2017
    Tresa ·
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    My matron of honor backed out so now I'm having two bridesmaids walk down with one groomsmen. Good luck!

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