So, I've kind of left FH's family out of the wedding planning (his mom and two sisters) ONLY because they are very, very opinionated people and I already have a hard time making decisions. Plus, I'm a people-pleaser, and I didn't want to agree to something that I know I didn't love only because I am afraid of hurting other people's feelings. So I kept the planning to just me and my mom. They have been a bit offended, but I think they just accepted it as time went on.
WELL, at a family get-together, FH's sisters caught me off guard and asked if they could plan my bridal shower. Of course I was flattered, and they ARE good party planners, so I just said yes and was excited that they thought of me. They already booked a cute little venue that can fit up to 40 people and are ordering invitations through Etsy. I told my mom about it, and she got really offended, and said that her and my younger sister wants to throw me and FH a couple's shower.
I don't want to offend either side because they both seem really excited. My mom/sister wants to throw us a shower in late June and my future SILs want to throw me one at the beginning of July. Both are dead set, and I think I'll only offend them if I try to persuade them to join them into one shower.
How can I do this? Who do I invite to each shower? I feel like I don't know THAT many people to have 2 showers, and I don't want it to look like I'm doing a shower for his side of the family and a shower for my side. I want everyone to mingle with each other and act as one family.