Two Best Men?

My FH is facing this same dilemma too!!

My FH is just having all 4 of his guys be groomsmen. Nobody is the best man. They will stand in height order and none of them are signing the marriage license ( that can be anyone.)

Hes down to 2 out of 6

I have a Man of Honor and Maid of Honor. My Maid of Honor will be close to me for the ceremony (she can fix my veil and make up better), but the Man of Honor will do the speech/toast on behalf of both of them. We're having a sweet heart table so they'll sit with their significant others. Maybe he could split the roles?

Why can't both of them be the Best Man? My fiance' has two best men and I have to maids of honor. Honestly, if they're both going to be in the line up, does it matter? Or is he having to pick one and leave the other out completely? Then I imagine, that would be a hard choice. But just remember, bridesmaids and groomsmen numbers don't have to match? There could be one lucky girl who gets to walk down the aisle with two handsome men... Who'd be upset with that? lol

Both could give speeches and they can decide who stands right beside the Groom during the ceremony (men normally don't care anyway). If FH wants both of them... Just let him have his way. If he's considering them as his best men, then it's obvious he care deeply for both of them. Trust me, there will be much bigger problems to fret over than this.

My late FIL, at his second wedding, couldn't decide. So, he asked both of his sons and his SIL to be his best men. IMO, it was silly, but it wasn't my wedding.

However you do this, just line the guys up. Unless you're printing out a program that identifies the honor attendants by name, don't worry about it. If you're printing out a program, just spell their names correctly, lol. While I'm an old-schooler who believes BM or MOH is an individual that means the most to the couple, it really doesn't matter to me, as a guest, if you put those titles on two people or six people.

Both Guys I feel would want to be close to the groom, so I wouldn't know who to put closer at the table and during the ceremony.

If he picks two best men, he can decide who sits near him or stands near him. His wedding party really is his own affair.

It would be me picking who is where. He could care less.

Just tell him you won't. He has to decide who stands where. Or they can decide by mortal combat. Either way, not your problem.

You're making this harder on yourself than it needs to be.

My husband picked his two best friends to be his best men. He asked one of them first and the other later, so the one he asked first stood at the front/walked first and held the rings. I also had two maids of honor and my sister (who I asked first) stood next to me/walked first, held my bouquet, and fixed my veil. It was just sort of natural that those who stood nearest to us ended up there. But all of them were equally involved in the wedding and participated in wedding related activities (bridal shower, rehearsal dinner, bachelor party, etc.) so I wouldn't worry yourself over this.

My FH is having two best men, his twin and his college best friend. But I also have two MOH so it worked out pretty well.

It's his wedding too, so he should get to pick who stands with him. It's not really your call. I had a matron of honor (my sister) and a maid of honor (my BFF). Sister stood next to me since she met me first (aka held me on the day I was born) and walked with DH's best man. My maid of honor stood next and walked with a groomsman. No big deal.

We had a sweetheart table because we didn't want to separate our BP from their SOs, but you could either flip the position (whomever stood next to FH in wedding doesn't sit next to him at the reception) or do it the same. I honestly don't think it matters

Um isn't your wedding almost a full year away? If so, it is WAY too early to be thinking about that!

Having 2 is fine. Let him do what he wants and I would stop butting in (e.g. Telling him who YOU think he should choose). I have two MOHs and I'm just switching it up- one will stand closest to me during the ceremony, the other will sit closest to me at dinner, etc.

He can have 2 best men. Where they sit is up to your FH. Not a big deal.

My BIL had 2 best men. One sat beside him during dinner, then other stood beside him at the ceremony and only one of them sis a speech. It was a bit mixed but no one really cares.

We have 2 best men, cousin and childhood friend. FH couldn't decide either. Cousin will stand next to him though, as we figured family first.

We couldn't decide so we have no wedding party besides our dogs and 2 Veterinary "dog handlers" They were chosen based on their ability to keep the dogs under control.

ETA: We will be the only ones at the head table.

My wedding is less than a year away. We have everything else pretty much picked out.