Tuxes and suits/ rent or buy argument

Personally, since it's his suit and he'll be the one wearing it, I think he should be able to decide what he wants to do. Whether it's buy or rent, let it be up to him. If he wants to go all out and get a custom suit, I think it's ok since it's his wedding too. Depending on where they get suits from, some shops only have basic suits to rent and you can't really customize. For our wedding, my husband and I both went to the suit store, told them the color suits we wanted and got prices and options for both renting and buying. My husband didn't like the blue color option they had for renting and immediately decided he would buy his in the color he wanted. He discussed with his GM the options and basically they decided it was better worth the money to just buy. It was only a little bit more to buy versus rent and they get a nice suit they can wear for other occasions. I want to say my husband's suit was around $400 for custom tailored. The GM also got all theirs custom as well and they all looked great! I'm also not sure if some of your GM wanted to rent and some wanted to buy if they would even be able to do that. I guess it depends on the store. I would suggest you both going to the store and getting and idea of exactly what all your options are. That way you'll be able to figure out what works best. But ultimately, I think your fiance should get to choose since he's the one wearing it.

So here is how this works. It is not uncommon there is one person that is more into the planning of the wedding than the other. The only thing my FH cared about was the cake and his suit lol. Everything else was all me and that is fine. I think for him what he cares about is how he looks. I can agree you being annoyed with him throwing the dress in your face and him saying he does not have a say. I think personally leave him and his groomsmen to how they want to dress. Yes as brides we want everything to be perfect but you know what, it is not a big deal if the suits do not match. Many bridal parties where different style dresses and tones and it is ok. I think you should let him do what he wants for his suit and his guys and you have some say over you and your bridal party. I think this is one of things, albeit frustrating, to let go so he is not going to get upset over the wedding because I think for some men it does not take much. I will say even though $1,000 is a lot for suit I can see his perspective that he can wear it again while our wedding dress, not so much. Maybe the deal to make with him is that it is navy and close to matching but if it is not perfect, no one will care and the attention will be on you two anyways. If he has the money to afford it let him and since I am sure his guys will be paying for their own let them decide what they prefer. I hope you two can resolve this and I do not think it is bad to have a calm talk about the argument so you two can move on and hopefully work better together.

While spending $1k for a suit is expensive, if that's what he wants and will get use out of throughout the years, I'd let him. He's kinda right, just because you get an expensive dress, it's no reason why he shouldn't get the suit he wants. (I know your mom is paying for yours, but can't use that as a real excuse as why not to allow him to get his).

Like you, I've done the majority of the legwork on our planning but I've not made a single decision without his input and if he didn't like something we ( or I ) looked for alternatives. This is the beginning of our marriage and compromise is a big part. But from a financial aspect the two of you HAVE to be on the same page.

Honestly i know $1k for a suit is a lot but the difference between a groom's attire and the bride's attire has been that he can rewear his. my husband bought a brand new custom suit for the wedding too and it was pretty good price. obviously it was more expensive than my own attire but i didn't even care cause he has worn that suit on other times after our own wedding since he CAN compared to my wedding gown aha.

SIL bought a custom made suit from Indochino (I believe it was under $500). He talked with his 6 GM about what they wanted to do, and most of them were happy to rent vs buy. They are currently in the place when they are most likely to wear a suit for each others' weddings, but nobody chooses the exact same thing for the guys to wear so it wasn't like buying a suit would mean they wouldn't have to buy/rent again in the future. They ended up using the BlackTux and rented just the suit pants & jacket for around $100 each, and had a GREAT experience. Daughter purchased all their white dress shirts on a Father's Day sale at Kohl's, with coupons, and ended paying about $6 a piece for them. She also bought their ties through Azazie to match the BMs dresses. They guys supplied their own black socks, shoes and belt. Both the G's suit and the GMs' suits were dark medium gray. In the photos they all look AWESOME and you can't tell that the rented suits are different from SIL's custom suit (which was gorgeous and fit like a glove). They all looked great and did what worked for everyone. If your fiance isn't aware of all the potential retailers that might work (both online and brick & mortar), you can provide him with some info about his options and then let him and the guys figure it out. Good luck!

I think each partner should be able to choose their own attire, as long as it fits within the overall budget. When you think about it, spending more on a suit that can be worn again makes a lot more sense than spending a lot on a one-time-use dress.

It sounds like this argument is about way more than fashion though. I think it's worth having some good conversations around improving communication and collaboration for the whole wedding planning process. You two are a team and now is the time to work on team building.

I mean, are y'all in a position where spending $1k on a suit is not financially responsible or feasible? Do you have debt? Do you have an emergency fund?

If you/he can afford it, then I would let him go for it. Just don't make the other guys pay $1k. And I would have them match.