Savvy July 2021

Tux or suit?

Jasmin, on November 1, 2020 at 2:41 AM Posted in Wedding Attire 0 26
I was talking to my fiancé about his tux and what he wanted to wear and he began telling me that he did not want to wear a tux but a suit. I thought that would be informal to do considering many guest themselves would be wearing suits. Your the groom your should stick out among your guest. Now this is the closest I’ve ever been to planning a wedding, none of my friends are married or family members my age that I would have been apart of the planning so I might not know much. My question is, is it okay for the groom and the groomsmen to wear a suit instead of a tux ?


Latest activity by Judith, on November 9, 2020 at 5:16 PM
  • Karla
    Super February 2020
    Karla ·
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    My husband wore a tux, but his groomsmen wore black suits. I’ve been to plenty of weddings where the groom and groomsmen wore suits. Unless you’re having a black tie event, I don’t think a groom wearing a suit will look informal or casual.
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  • Samantha
    Expert October 2021
    Samantha ·
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    There isn't really a huge difference between the 2. It is fine to wear either for your wedding, especially if he is uncomfortable with a tux. The Groom, like the Bride should pick their own clothes. However, since he is so opposed, I wonder if he isn't think about a tux with tails, which is very different.
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  • KiwiDerbyBride
    VIP May 2015
    KiwiDerbyBride ·
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    Groom wearing a suit is absolutely fine. Technically you shouldn’t wear a tux before 6pm anyway, so unless you’re having an evening wedding, a suit is more correct! A dark suit is generally more formal than a lighter one - my husband wore a charcoal grey suit.

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  • Sarah
    Super August 2021
    Sarah ·
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    Mine is going to wear a suit.
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  • Michelle
    Rockstar April 2021
    Michelle ·
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    My fiancé is wearing a suit.
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  • Dj Tanner
    June 2021
    Dj Tanner ·
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    We thought about this too. We’ve been to so many weddings yet it’s almost as if you draw a blank when it comes to your own big day. We looked up a lot of wedding videos on YouTube and also looked through our videographers portfolio and watched those videos to see what the grooms were wearing. He definitely wants to wear a tux and he has a pretty specific tux in mind that he wants to either get custom-made or take to a tailor to add specific details. He wears suits often(Pre Covid) to work, and he recently got a new position where he will be wearing suits every day once we all go back to work after Covid, so I think that’s the main reason why he really wanted to wear a tux and something a little bit more formal. But I could totally see guys wearing suits if they don’t wear them all the time. Either way I don’t think anyone will be paying any attention to his suit or tux LOL. As I said, him and I have attended many weddings and we can’t even remember what anyone wore.
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  • T
    Super April 2021
    Tiger Bride ·
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    Mine is wearing a suit that he will keep so he has a suit to wear. A suit is fine, and it is his choice anyway.
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  • Allie
    VIP November 2021
    Allie ·
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    Mine is wearing a suit. He’s not really a very dressy guy so the suit cleans him up really well. He will still stand out even if other guests are wearing suits. I honestly don’t really know that there’s much of a difference between the 2.
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  • V
    Champion July 2019
    Veronica ·
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    It is totally up to you guys. Plenty of grooms and groomsmen wear suits rather than tuxes. My husband and groomsmen wore tuxes because we wanted our wedding to be more formal. However, there really isn't much difference between a suit and tux.

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  • Marcia
    Expert March 2021
    Marcia ·
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    My friend wore a 3-piece suit, which definitely set him apart from the guests but was still less formal than a tux (he wanted to buy a suit he could wear again and again)

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  • Eri
    Super October 2020
    Eri ·
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    A suit is perfectly acceptable for a groom! As PPs said, there's not a huge difference, and I'd only push for the tux if you're having a super formal/black tie affair.

    My husband wore a grey tux, the groomsmen wore lighter grey suits.

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  • Nicole
    Master September 2020
    Nicole ·
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    My husband wore a 3 piece suit. I definitely don’t think it was too informal.
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  • Mrs. Spring
    Master April 2021
    Mrs. Spring ·
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    I don't see an issue with it. My FH will be wearing a suit.
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  • M
    Super October 2022
    Michele ·
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    If he does not wish to wear a tux, do not force it on him. Everyone can tell who the groom is, because he is the only one exchanging vows with you. He also wears a boutonniere that only he and the groomsmen do.

    Keep the clothing the same formality throughout. So all tuxes or all suits.
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  • C
    Super December 2021
    Casey ·
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    My FH will be wearing a suit and it was my suggestion (he said "idk whatever you want" about his outfit lol.)
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  • Yasmine
    Rockstar October 2020
    Yasmine ·
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    That's perfectly fine, he can wear whatever he wants! I've seen grooms wear suits plenty of times
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  • Rabreena
    Devoted October 2021
    Rabreena ·
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    Absolutely it is okay for the groom to wear a suit. At first my FH asked if I wanted him to wear his dress blues, since he served in the Marines, for our wedding. But we decided since we would be having so many other Marines attending our wedding if we did it that way it would mean that they all would have to wear their as well and we didn't want to put that additional pressure on them.
    So my FH and the groomsman will be wearing suits for our wedding, which is set to be formal. The groomsman will be a wearing a dark grey and my FH will be wearing a light grey still being able to have that difference between everyone. I honestly left the decision up to my FH as it will be him and the guys wearing it, because they know which would be more comfortable for them to wear.

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  • Griswold
    May 2019
    Griswold ·
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    Cool, what style tuxedo does he have in mind?

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  • Hanna
    VIP June 2019
    Hanna ·
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    My husband and all of his groomsmen wore a tux (our venue was a fancy ballroom), but I've been to dozens of weddings where the groom + groomsmen wore suits. As long as you're not having a super formal wedding, suits would be perfect!

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  • Elizabeth
    Dedicated October 2021
    Elizabeth ·
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    My fiancé will be wearing a suit.

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