Tux colors

I would say, it's up to your Fathers. My groom and groomsmen will be in Navy and black, so will my Father, since he is walking me down the aisle.
My fiancee's father can wear whatever he wishes to.
I don't think there is any set rule.

Fathers can be in anything they want, as long as they match the formality. My husband and his groomsmen wore medium gray tuxes. My dad wore a checkered light gray suit that he already owned and my father in law wore a black suit he already owned. My brothers were groomsmen, so we have photos of them with my dad and they don't look odd or mismatched or anything.

Family, fathers or mothers, need to be of the same formality, but may wear any color or style. It is not up to Bride or Groom to choose, unless asked by that particular parent. Even when that parent walks with the bridal party.

They should wear whatever they want.

Your fathers don't have to match the groomsmen. As someone else said, they just match the formality.


Since my wedding is formal and everyone's in a tux, our dads are renting with the groomsmen because neither of them own a tux. But the guys are in trendy navy blue, so the dads chose midnight blue.

I'd let them wear whatever color they want. Anything will look nice with grey.

I think it's fine either way, but I'd personally prefer uniformity.

It really is whatever you think looks better. For me personally, my FH and his groomsmen will be in navy and I think I am going to have the dads in grey. I personally like the separation between the bridal party and our parents while still being having all colors complement each other.

View Quoted Comment It is not up to the bride. It has long been considered rude for a bride to decide what a parent should wear. Your Dad decides what he wants. You don't decide what looks best. He is your father, not your attendants, and you should not decide how you think would look best. Choose BM and GM clothes only. And politely let parents decide how to look, considering the formality, weather or season and their choice not yours of color and style.

View Quoted Comment “He is your father, not your attendants, and you should not decide how you think would look best.” This is a very rude comment. A simple yes or no would have sufficed. Btw it is my wedding so yes I do decide what he wears.

View Quoted Comment That is not a rude comment. That is standard etiquette. Good manners. When a bride or groom is getting married, they do not get a free pass to cross boundaries of the way other people should be treated. Brides and grooms traditionally choose the clothing for their attendants, the bridesmaids and groomsmen, flower girls and ring bearer. Not hair or makeup, or personal make up. Just the robes for the ceremony. For them to decide to choose their parents' clothes is out of bounds. They are not your attendants, nor are they furnishings or decorations, or props for a color scheme or pictures. Neither are guests. If you advise a bride to decide what her parents will wear, you are advising her to treat that parent in a rude way.
It is a matter of each person realizing where they are in control, and where they are not. If your parents pay for your wedding, they still cannot tell you who to marry, to have a religious ceremony or not, who to pick for your bridesmaids. By convention, or etiquette as decided by most people over time, parents must stay out of certain decisions, even if they host the wedding. People here get properly outraged over parents pushing their grown children around, to get what parents want. But it is equally wrong for brides and grooms to decide that at the wedding, their parents, who are adults who have dressed themselves for decades, now need to follow brides instructions, or her color scheme. They don't. And it is not rude to point that out. Part of the purpose of this forum is for brides to advise others of "the right thing" to do. Asking parents to fit into a color scheme chosen by the bride, is not the right thing to do. Family, guests, choose their own color and style of clothes, within the guidelines of the correct formality. Long standing Etiquette. As bride, your color scheme applies to decorations, napery, flowers, , dresses or suits or ties for you and your attendants only. No more. Not parent's clothes, event if the walk down the aisle.

View Quoted Comment That’s where you’re wrong. If I want my dad to match my FH and his groomsmen then I have that right. If I don’t want him to look out of place, that’s my right to tell him that I want him to match them. My parents and I are super close and my dad has asked what color he is wearing so I can tell him, especially if he asked!