Turning Down Marriage Proposals

I've never had to but I honestly think it's something based on your progression. Don't accept something just because it may be hard to say no. i think it's ok to say no we aren't there yet, maybe later.

I didnt actually turn down a proposal but the guy did have the ring and we broke up. Turns out it was a good thing, we definitely weren't right for each other when I look back on that relationship.

As for turning down a proposal, I feel as though you should know if your partner is ready for marriage, wants to be married/engaged. If someone turns down a proposal than that tells me that a discussion has not taken place and there is a lack of communication in the relationship. The timing/place of the proposal can be a surprise, but the fact that it's coming really shouldnt be to me.

View Quoted Comment I completely agree with you. But I've always wondered how marriage proposals are even turned down. I mean, didn't the couple discuss marriage beforehand?

View Quoted Comment 👏 I completely agree that you should know if your partner is ready for marriage.

Yes, I have. My ex right before FH. He bought a ring and told me about it. I asked him to return it. We broke up a month later. The relationship wasn't going anywhere on my end so it was best to end it.

View Quoted Comment 😮 Do you think he was going to propose as a way to "fix" the relationship?

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Absolutely. He knew I was unhappy and looking for a way out.

View Quoted Comment It's crazy how many couples get married to try to save their relationship. Thankfully you didn't do it.

No, I had an ex that thought we'd get married eventually because we had been together a long time. Him saying that made me realize I didn't want to marry him! So thankfully I didn't have to turn him down.

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Why didn't you want to marry him?

View Quoted Comment I realised we had different sets of work ethics and our goals probably weren't going to be compatible long term.
He was a chronic procrastinator and changed jobs once a year. I wasn't a fan of the inconsistency.

View Quoted Comment Oh, I see. Sounds like you made a good decision.

Does it count if a number of boys told me they'd marry me if I wasn't married by 30?

(I was always very uncomfortable with this, because, of course, I wasn't dating them, so ... why are you bringing this up when we are 18?)

Also, I broke an engagement.

And joke's on everyone, I very much did not marry anyone by 30. (Though I had been with FH for nearly a year by then.)

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Yes it counts to me. Why'd you break off the engagement?

View Quoted Comment That was the toxic relationship I've mentioned before.

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Got it, thanks for clarifying.