Tuesday wedding!

A Tuesday wedding will inconvenience a lot of people. I probably would decline unless it was immediate family. I've heard of weekday weddings, but usually on a Friday or at the very least, Thursday evening.

May I ask why it has to be on a Tuesday? Remember that your wedding is what will make a particular date special, not the other way around.

As long as everyone you really want there will be able to make it, then I don't see a problem with it. Just expect a higher rate of declines than normal.

If it were a local wedding I'd go, but might not stay the whole time depending on when I have to be at work the next day.

It will be a huge inconvenience for a lot of people. And I say that as one who had a Tuesday wedding. (Unfortunately, our timing was dictated by the complications inherent in having the wedding 8 hours from our house, in a different state.)

You seem to think that if they love you, they will be there. But if you love them, why make it more of a hardship than it need to be?

If your VIPS were brutally honest with you and are ok with it then party on. People do have a tendency to tell couples everything sounds like a good idea even if they don't think so. If the VIPS are good that is what matters. Also, it IS seriously inconvenient for a lot of people so you have to be very gracious about declines. My pet peeve is when people come on here and say the ones who want to be there will. That is unicorns and rainbows. I get 13 vacation days a year. Move in weekend at DS college eats 2, family weekend eats 2, move out weekend takes 2 and I haven't even gotten to out of state daughter and grandkids and seeing them. If you invited me I would promptly decline if you weren't local , send a lovely gift and wish you well. I would expect that you would be gracious about my decline.

Your day should be special for you, but as long as you realize that some will decline because it's not good for them, you should be ok. Focus the happiness on those who are coming, and be understanding of those who aren't.

Most people would find it inconvenient, but personally if it's close to where I live, I would totally go to a Tuesday wedding! Do whatever works for you and your FH!

I would only go if it were close to where I live. Unless you were my sister or something, I would not take the day off work to attend a Tuesday wedding. If the date is special to you, keep it - but just be prepared for people declining your invitation that you didn't expect to. People will also leave earlier as they will not want to be tired for the rest of the work week.

We are getting married on a Thursday

To be perfectly honest, I would only attend if it was within 30 minutes of my house. If it was immediate family, I would have to suck it up and take 2, possibly 3 days off work. But I wouldn't be very happy about that. I only get 3 personal days. So I would be using all of them on one event.

But ultimately it's your day, so as long as you are okay with more declines, go for it!

Thanks for all the comments ladies! Im only inviting fam and vip(95% of them only live 15 to 30 minutes away). After reading the comments....Im not changing the date but i will make it in the evening so they wont have to miss work if they don't want to.

I think that you did everything you could. You talked to the people important for you to have there and they mostly seem fine with it. But what I don't get is how a Tuesday wedding isn't as special as a Friday or Saturday wedding?

Mine is on a Tuesday but at night. Be there or be square.

If you are doing a small wedding then it shouldn't katyer

@jessica m. Lol that's what i was wondering! @erin w. mine is at 7pm what time is yours...when is it?

A Tuesday wedding will be short and I wouldn't expect people to really let loose.... you will have to start later so people can make it there from work and they will most likely leave early due to work the next day .... iv been to Friday weddings but never on any other days of the week