Trying to plan a joint bachelor/bachelorette party.

I am all for the joint celebration! That's what we are doing! It's your special time....screw the ones trying to make it about them!

We are having a joint party as well. We finally decided on the location (Lake Tahoe) and are doing it Labor Day Weekend. We wanted a coed party for the same reasons...I love his guys and he loves my girls. Saturday we will split though. During the day is girls are going to the lake and the guys are gonna do a rafting trip or something. We will do dinner separate and the night out apart too. We are renting a huge cabin to house the whole group. Most of the people coming are couples so it just makes sense for us. My girls are planning our Saturday and his BM and guys are in charge of his. It's a great compromise, that way we get all the togetherness but then can have a night out, but come home to each other.

We are having a co-ed party too. Mainly because we are marrying in my home country and I don't want to have to abandon FH for another night when we are there and I have a lot of guy friends that I want to see and hang out with when I'm home. FH gets along with all of them, so it works out.

Do the guys know what you want to do? If they are aware that you want to go crazy, they might be ok with that and lay off. I would just go ahead and plan anyways. At some point, they will have to suck it up and go along with it.

I think joint ones are a great idea. One way to compromise might be spending a couple hours apart doing your own thing with any of the girls you plan to have and your FH can spend alone time with the guys and then you can all meet up and spend the rest of the time together as a whole group. Just meet at the strip club (or where you want) but have dinner before with just guys/girls or something similar to that.

I can hang out with the boys as well, I love partying with my man. Actually his friends were my friends first before we met. BUUUUUUUUUUUT. I'm going to let him and his boys have their fun we can hit up a strip club together some other time after we are married.

If my FH wanted a joint one I would do it, I don't think he does and I don't either.

I think you should sit it out. You're don't have a problem with strippers so you have nothing to worry about.

Do the strip club visit together some other time.

We did a joint celebration. We went downtown for the night. I put together a scavenger hunt, guys against girls. We split up for a few hours and had to check off the scavenger hunt items and take pictures of everything for proof…things like (sit on a strangers shoulders, one person drinks an entire beer sampler, and dance on the bar) and everything was worth points. At the end we tallied everything up and partied together guys and girls. Besides some drunken drama, it was really fun.

I'm in the minority here and I think Bachelor/ette parties should not be combined. In fact, they should be on separate weekends and/or in separate towns. The whole point is to have one last hurrah before "settling down." You and FH (then DH) can go to a strip club together any other time. If you actually want to go to a strip club, then have your girls take you there...as long as it's not the same one FH is at!

We went to Vegas and Friday night we all hung out together, Saturday night was separate. We even stayed in different hotels. We had the same problems with his BM, but he wanted it together one night so that's what they did. His BM tried ruining the night together. It got ugly and basically his douche BM strayed off alone. Aside from his BM, the night together was fun, and the night separate was even better!!!

I don't think I have ever heard of anyone having a joint party. I can see how that would be pretty fun! But I couldn't say that I would prefer to have a combined rather than separate Bachelor/ette parties.

@Lindsay! I really like the whole scavenger hunt idea! Too cool!

Krystal – I would recommend it, it was a good time.

We are not having anything...but the most fun ones that I have attended...started out separate and ended up together. Have some GIRL/GUY ONLY time, initially...meet up later! At my son's party...we picked them up at their house, after the strippers left...and went to bars. It was a BLAST!

I went to the last "event" (dinner) of DH's bachelor party weekend. Had a great time too.

I like Katatucci's idea.